Today has officially been named Batman Day because it is the 75th Anniversary of the beloved DC Comic hero. Do you remember watching Batman on TV? A big Kabam...Zap...Pow! to you!
As a dating coach for women over 40, I started wondering…is that how you feel about dating? Every time you meet and are disappointed by a new man, you get the Kabam...Zap...Pow! and then retreat back into your safe and single bat cave?
Many women find it painful to mingle with men or can’t even take that step for fear of being hurt again or rejected. I understand and I’ve been in your shoes. I had to date 30 men in 15 months to find the man who is now my husband! I never said it was easy. But I do want to let you know looking for love is worth it.
Trust me, I faced my share of rejection on the road to finding my romantic hero. I had great first dates with men who said they’d like to see me again, but never called. I had three dates with a few guys who suddenly disappeared without another word. I met one guy who looked me up and down and told me he had 15-minutes for me and asked what I wanted to drink. Kabam Zap! That hurt like hell.
But I didn’t retreat. I didn’t hide. I didn’t shut down. Nope. I had already been shut down for 18 years after the painful breakup with my college boyfriend. So I refused to sink back into the complete lack of action I had lived through. Not this time. I was going for it — to find the love I deserved no matter what.
How determined are you to find your romantic hero and Caped Crusader? Can you see any self-defeating patterns in your dating life that keep you from love? Do you crumble when you don’t get a second date? Do you become a puddle after a bad first date?
You may say that it’s just not worth it. Your life is fine just the way it is – and that is true. Hey, in this day and age, you don’t NEED a man. But my bet is if you think this way, you don’t really believe you will find the right man.
As your dating coach I am here to tell you that he is out there!
I am completely serious. People fall in love every day, why not you? With a dose of perseverance and a little stick-to-it-tiveness, your effort of working on yourself to be the best woman you can be and making yourself available so the right man can find you will pay off.
Don’t quit now! Don’t quit ever! Sometimes you may need a break to recoup. That makes sense. But don’t tarry too long because a lack of action can become a new habit quickly. Ever heard of the Law of Inertia? This is physics ladies. A body in motion tends to stay in motion and a body at rest tends to stay at rest. It takes a tremendous force to get out of the resting phase. In fact, the longer you wait, the harder forward movement towards the outcome you want will be.
Right now you are in the heat of summer, which is the best time of year to meet new men and mingle. Muster up your courage and start interacting with men. Smile at them! Talk to them! Be friendly! This can be fun if you allow it.
I just started round 2 of my program Single No More! Here’s what one participant said after she registered,
"After I registered, I found myself more aware of the men around me. I was at Starbucks and spoke to the man next to me picking up his coffee at the same time. I smiled at another man as I was leaving. I noticed the men walking by me on the sidewalk as I returned to the office. I felt a shift immediately and was very pleased by that." — Ruby, IN
As soon as she made the commitment to work on this by registering for my group coaching program, she saw the difference. I’m not trying to talk you into my class. It has already started. The point is about your commitment to yourself. Your commitment to finding love. Your commitment to having a romantic partner to share your life with.
No one can do this but you. But I am here to be your cheerleader for love. I want to encourage you, motivate you and guide you on the journey.
Get out of the cave! Get out to meet and mingle. You can find love if you make an effort. Educate yourself about how dating works today so you can date smarter. Learn to avoid common pitfalls and dire mistakes that keep you from love. Stop sabotaging yourself or lingering with the wrong man.
Batman may be 75 today, but don’t wait until you are 75 to look back with regret about what could have been. Get active and go for what you really want! Stop denying yourself out of a lack of belief or a few bad experiences. The right man for you is out there. Make yourself available today so he can find you.
Happy Batman Day!
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