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Marriage After 40: 7 Signs I Knew I Found My Soulmate

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marriage after 40: signs I found my soulmate
Here's how I knew my husband Paul was "the one."
I found my soulmate after a long search for love (and you can, too).

4. Of all the men I had dated, my time with Paul seemed very different. Things felt light and peaceful, which was in contrast to my normal high-energy, fast-paced life. This was a welcome change for me. Other men may have brought out more excitement or intellectual conversation, but with Paul, I felt an ease in a way that was uncommon and enjoyable. Soulmate check! We were compatible and it felt really good to spend time with him.

5. I wanted a man who would accept my spiritual viewpoints. He didn't have to agree with them, but I wanted to be respected. I realized we had different but compatible spiritual viewpoints when Paul and I spent time in nature. He pointed out animals and plants that I wouldn't have noticed without him. Soulmate check! We both revered the earth and the cosmos.

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6. I can be silly and vulnerable in front of him. I once mentioned to Paul that I had had a dream about Paul Newman. I never dreamt about movie stars, so I was puzzled about it. He figured it out right away, asking me, "You had a dream about 'Paul the New Man?'" We laughed about that together for a long time. Soulmate check! Paul was quick to see the "pun" of my dream and made me laugh.

7. My subconscious mind felt safe with Paul. The first night we spent together, I dreamt about us. In my dream, I was some sort of Celtic spiritual woman and he was a warrior. (He's of Irish and English decent, but I'm not.) We were considering marriage and I asked him if he would protect me. He stood firm, then bowed and answered solemnly, "Yes, I will."

Knowing whether the person you're dating is your soulmate is an individual process. Having been through this myself and as a dating coach for women, one thing I know is that compatibility and respect are the keys to a lasting partnership. The seven soulmate checkpoints above helped me identify Paul as the right man for me. Take the time to figure out what matters most to you and use that as your own soulmate guide.

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Coach Ronnie Ann Ryan

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The Dating Coach for Women Over 40

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