5 Tips for a Great First Phone Call
By Coach Ronnie Ann Ryan. Posted on .
4. Listen to his voice, use your powers of observation and trust your intuition. If you can't get every question answered, what can you hope to discover about the guy at the other end of the phone? Listen to his voice. Does it appeal to you or make you feel nervous? Trust your intuition here and in all dating activities. You are listening for red flags to keep yourself safe. In my 10 years of dating coaching, I have only had a couple of women tell me about a man who made them nervous. It doesn't happen often, but do keep your ears open.
To determine if a man is worth dating, listen for his energy level and interest in you. As you listen to him talk, you'll learn about his language skills, intelligence and disposition. This is all valuable information to determine if a man could be a good match without drilling deep into why his wife left.
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5. Leave him wanting more with a short first phone call. Let's say the call is going well and you feel like you could talk to this man all night. Don't do it! You want to have something to talk about next time. Plus, you want to leave him thinking about you and curious to know more.
In addition, there is a tremendous risk to a marathon phone call which can work against you - over sharing! Women often get lulled into a sense of connection and then start sharing their problems which rings all his warning bells! Instead, end the call after 20-minutes. Simply say, "I enjoyed talking with you but I have to get going." Let him take the lead about deciding to meet or calling you again.
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