Hook #3: Give ‘em What They Want: She purposely tells men what they want to hear. ”I love a guy who can teach me more. Is that you?” She really means it, but she also knows that this is a hook.
Hook #4: Sexual Overtone: She says things like “I like all things about you being a man, too. And I can be quite a woman under the right circumstances.” If this guy is a healthy, hot-blooded male, he’s thinking she means sex.
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If all your emails say is, “I liked your profile and think we have some things in common,” and you’re not getting responses, try to plant some hooks like the ones above. Remember, you are looking for romance, not friendship. Practice creating that playful, seductive spark. If you are the kind of person who “is only playful after you get to know someone,” get over yourself. The Internet is the best place in the world to practice getting out of your shell. If you really can’t loosen up, have a glass of wine or get a fun friend to sit with you and write emails. Keep throwing mud at the wall to see what sticks.
When I was a kid vacationing in Mexico with my family, my older brother once said, “Lisa, you are so intense. I don’t know how any man is going to deal with you.” Today my husband tells me that I am the most playful person he knows. I didn’t just happen to meet the right guy. I became a playful person and then I attracted the right guy to me. It’s time to take risks, have some fun, and get naked!
She creates a lot of the sparks. She is sparky. She’s not waiting for someone else to light things up.
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