Have you ever wished you could have a particular celebrity’s life? Perhaps not their whole life, but the parts of their life that appear glamorous, easy, or simply what you want in your own life? How do you think your family and friends would react if you suddenly started acting like this celebrity? They’d probably want to have you committed and psychologically evaluated! What if, though, you started emulating your next door neighbor or the person who’s been mentoring you in your business? They probably wouldn’t jump so quickly to have you whisked off to the nut house, but they’d probably be pretty concerned and wonder what the heck was happening to you. The thing is, people actually do this all the time. They decide they don’t have what they want in their own life, so they start to take on the characteristics of the people who do have what they’re looking for. Essentially, they copy the actions and behaviors of this person or people, expecting to experience the same results. Alas, they frequently find themselves disappointed.
Graciella has “the life.” She just got the promotion that Tina secretly coveted, along with the huge office, has a wonderful house in the suburbs, the newest sport utility vehicle for bad weather and a flashy convertible for fun, a successful husband who loves to cook, and two darling children. When Tina compared her life to Graciella’s with the second mortgage, the one car that may or may not get her to work, and the cubicle the size of a shoebox, she couldn’t help but feel a tad short-changed. She didn’t begrudge Graciella the things she had achieved, but desperately wanted them for herself. So, Tina decided that if she wanted a similar lifestyle, she needed to behave in a very similar manner.
Tina became a “mini-Graciella.” She began to dress like Graciella, mimic her actions, and even eat similar things. At first Graciella was mildly amused, but quickly became annoyed and a tad concerned over Tina’s behavior. Tina’s metamorphosis did not go unnoticed by her other co-workers, and she suddenly found herself getting the attention she desired, but for all the wrong reasons. Her boss quickly became dissatisfied with her work because he relied upon the unique insight that Tina had brought to the table. After about a month of this troubling behavior he called her into his office. She anticipated the meeting with excitement. She just knew that he was going to offer her the remaining promotion. Why wouldn’t he? After all she had been doing exactly the same things as Graciella. Tina could not understand why her boss was not smiling when she walked in, as they had always had an easy relationship. After Tina sat he explained to her that she had been a shoe-in for the promotion until about a month before. He went on to say that instead of promoting her as he had hoped, he was actually issuing an informal warning because her performance had been seriously sub-standard. He told her that she had lost the promotion to another employee, but that she would have another chance in about a year, providing that her current issue was rectified immediately. Before she left he patted her hand and told her that one Graciella in the office was enough, but they really needed the input, intelligence, and insight that Tina brought to the team. As Tina walked back to her tiny cubicle fighting tears, she realized how creepy she had been behaving. She had willingly abandoned who she was, her unique traits, her quirky sense of humor, and her unerringly sense of intuition for her job. At what cost? She almost lost a job she truly enjoyed, was ostracized from people that she had worked with for years, and had move herself even further from her goals.
There are a number of ways that Tina could have handled the situation, but the most effective way would have been by embracing her uniqueness. Tina lost track of what was working for her and focused on what she wanted that she didn’t have. Tina forgot to embrace the qualities that made her Tina, to put those positive vibrations out into the universe so that those wonderful qualities of hers would attract more of the lifestyle that she desired. Tina got too caught up in “falling in line” and forgot that marching to her own tune could be just as much fun, and bring success on its own. Success tailored to Tina, the type that is the perfect fit for her because she attracted it to suit her qualities, desires, abilities, and spirit.
Just like there was only one Graciella—and, if you recall, only one was actually desired, there is only one you. Just be true to yourself and your life will fall in line with those things you really do want to attract to you for your life. What someone else has or doesn’t have in their life has nothing to do with the things you are or aren’t meant to have in your life. Remember, your heart is what sends out the vibrations into the universe so, in order to attract the things that will truly have you experience success and fulfillment in your life, it’s imperative that those vibrations come from an authentic, honest place inside of you. Honest thoughts, vibrations, and actions will produce amazing results that are so in-line with what you truly desire.