My best friend who lives in Southern Florida is in her early 50’s and is ready to start dating again after losing a partner to a brain tumor. She mentioned to me that she is frustrated with the singles scene since she says the singles events and Meetups she attends are almost 70% women. She feels it’s very competitive and if there is a decent guy, all the women are vying for his attention.
I told her that when she goes to these singles events, you don’t know if someone wants a serious relationship or is a player (unless it’s a Marriage Minded Meetup!).
And yes, it’s okay to get out of the house and socialize with groups and activities. I made some of my closest girlfriends (and guy friends) when I participated in social activities groups such as the ski club, a bowling league and a biking group.
However, I recommended that she start dating online since she is looking for specific attributes that match her own and you can search for someone who appears to be serious about finding a relationship.
Online dating allows her to peruse men’s profiles and seek out those seriously minded men who share her values, interests and life goals. It’s a one to one medium and she doesn’t have to stand by the dance floor waiting for a guy to make the first move.
The baby boomers have embrased online dating and see the benefits that it presents:
You can search online 24/7 when it fits your busy schedule. This works well if you have a demanding job or if you are a single parent.
It offers convenience where you can meet a large number available, single people all from your home or office! You can be meeting people even when you are traveling away from home.
You get a lot of information about a person upfront that could take you months to find out by traditional dating.
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