Who accompanies you to your single’s events to find love?

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Who accompanies you to your single’s events to find love?
Spring is in the air & you may be looking to get out from the computer and seek out a singles group.

Spring is in the air and you may be looking to get out from the computer and seek out a singles groups’ activity. When you do show up to a singles events to meet eligible people for dating, that takes a lot of guts, especially if you are going by yourself. However, when you walk into the room, you are really not alone. You bring all your too familiar voices that are in your head with you. What are they telling you in your quest to find love?

How you show up determines how well you connect with people. Many times you may hear negative voices offering you some kind of warning, “Only losers would come to this event” or “There are only the rejects here”. Here you are bringing your judgmental or snobby gremlins with you.

Or you may be bringing your fearful gremlins with you who may be telling you, “Be careful, the guys here only want one thing!” or,”The women are going to reject me, so why bother?”. All these negative attitudes won’t serve you to find love and will keep you from really participating and getting to know the people there.

How about bringing the confident you to the event? This is the part of you who knows that you can engage in friendly conversation and start building relationships. I encourage my clients to be open and to stay curious about others. You are just developing connections – that’s it. Then, over time, if there is interest, then you may decide to explore a possible relationship, if the interest appears to be mutual. Or perhaps a friendship can blossom.

So who do you choose to bring with you the next time you venture out to a new group of try a single’s event to find love? Who usually shows up and how do you plan on picking the right wing thoughts the next time you attend a new group or an event? This curious coach would like to know!

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Amy Schoen, MBA, CPCC

www.MotivatedtoMarry.com

Illuminating Your Path to Finding Lasting Love

I work with marriage minded individuals who are ready to take charge of their dating efforts and learn a system of how to meet people who share their values so that they can find the right one and have the family life they so desire.

Location: Rockville, MD
Credentials: MBA
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