When Is It Time To Meet With A Dating Coach?


When Is It Time To Meet With A Dating Coach?
What keeps people from taking the steps to working with a professional and get relationship advice?

Finding the right relationship needs to be top of mind and a high priority in your life. Then you will make the time for this endeavor. My clients are busy people and together we find the right avenues for them to be spending their time, energy and financial resources. And most importantly, a potential partner wants to know that you have time for them.

My husband Alan and I went on one date five years before we really started dating and he never asked me out again for a second date at that time because he viewed me as being too busy. However, he never gave me a chance to explain that I do make time for what is truly important in my life. Life is about choices. Think about what impression you are giving to your date.

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Also, what are you busy with in your life and how will you make space for a relationship? I am a big believer in what you focus on (ie. Spend your time on) is where you will have the greatest chance for achievement- Just as you do to move up the career ladder by making a transition to a new career or working towards a promotion where you are; or to commit to a weight loss program and show up weekly to weigh in; or learn a new skill or sport or a new language. To achieve your goals all these endeavors take time, attention and practice!

4. Not Knowing Who to Work With: Coaching versus a Dating Service?

You do have a lot of choices out there with regards to dating services. I recommend you find a qualified, trained person who has a proven track record. Also, when working with a relationship life coach, you will get the information you need BEFORE you would work with other dating services or a matchmaker.

When you look at the numbers with regards to matchmakers. I only know two people (And I know a lot of people!) who met their partners/spouses through a matchmaker. One is now divorced. I do know countless people who met their mates through online dating, especially with the approach that I take my clients through. (See my success stories at

At times I do recommend a matchmaker for those clients who fit their narrow, specific profile. In my Motivated to Marry Dating Secrets Coaching Program, I give you a checklist of questions to ask a Matchmaker BEFORE you sign up and spend the thousands of dollars they require.

So how precious is your time? I wish I could have worked with the women I described earlier – she would probably be married with a child instead of still reluctantly going to singles events. Now, in her late 40’s, her options have changed if she still wants to have children (and the are very costly, let me tell you from personal experience).

The smart people seek my relationship advice and insights sooner than later. The advice and information I provide to my clients is invaluable. It literally changes their lives for the better.

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If you want to see if Dating and Relationship Coaching is right fit for you, let’s have a conversation about that. Ask yourself, “What relationship situation do you want to be in a year from now?” and “What action are you willing to take to help you achieve your goals?” And last, “What is holding you back from getting the help you need and deserve?”

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Coach Amy Schoen


Amy Schoen, MBA, CPCC

Illuminating Your Path to Finding Lasting Love

I work with marriage minded individuals who are ready to take charge of their dating efforts and learn a system of how to meet people who share their values so that they can find the right one and have the family life they so desire.

Location: Rockville, MD
Credentials: MBA
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