Find Love with a Dating Plan

By Coach Amy Schoen. Posted on May 23rd 2012.

A tip for dating is to take the time to put a dating plan into action so that you can be successful in your quest for love.

Many of you are probably groaning to yourselves as you read this and thinking, “A dating plan? That sounds like work!” And thus, we come to the intial phase of your dating plan, which is to decide:

1. How do I want to be perceived?
Do you want to appear confident and happy or desperate and bitter? Do you dread outlining a dating plan or do you look forward to working toward your goal? My next tip for dating is that your attitude regarding dating and relationships WILL come across to potential suitors. Stay positive! You are doing this because you are choosing to make one aspect of your life better.

Another tip for dating is:

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2. Start with your goals in mind.
My last tip for dating here is to start your plan at the end by determining your goal. Once you determine where you want to end up, you’ll have a much easier time figuring out how to get there. By determining the end point of your dating plan, you’ll be able to clearly and effectively outline your roadmap to love.

3. STICK WITH IT!
I often tell my clients that the dating game – when the ultimate goal is a life partner, lifelong relationship or marriage – is a marathon. We’re not running sprints here -keep at your plan and don’t give up! Tweak things a bit. Figure out what works and what doesn’t. And stick with it!

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Amy Schoen, MBA, CPCC

www.MotivatedtoMarry.com

Illuminating Your Path to Finding Lasting Love

I work with marriage minded individuals who are ready to take charge of their dating efforts and learn a system of how to meet people who share their values so that they can find the right one and have the family life they so desire.

Location: Rockville, MD

Credentials: MBA

Website: http://motivatedtomarry.com/

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