Do You Look For Love In The Wrong People

By Coach Amy Schoen. Posted on Dec 21st 2012.

Don't waste your time chasing a relationship going no where.

Through the coaching she realized she was not going to get more of his time and commitment. She had to make a decision. She chose to leave and make herself available again.

In a couple of months, she met her current boyfriend online. They are dating exclusively and she is enjoying the time and attention she never got with her old boyfriend.

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A romantic relationship has to be reciprocal or you will be doing all the work with little to show for it in the end. You have to ask yourself, "Do I really have time to wait for this guy or gal?" And even if you do, it may not end up as you hoped. How long will you wait for this person to know if you have found true love leading to marriage?

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This coach recommends you stop chasing. That is the only way you will know if your intended has the same level of interest (and focus) as you do in finding love.

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Amy Schoen, MBA, CPCC

www.MotivatedtoMarry.com

Illuminating Your Path to Finding Lasting Love

I work with marriage minded individuals who are ready to take charge of their dating efforts and learn a system of how to meet people who share their values so that they can find the right one and have the family life they so desire.

Location: Rockville, MD

Credentials: MBA

Website: http://motivatedtomarry.com/

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