Do You Look For Love In The Wrong People


Do You Look For Love In The Wrong People
Don't waste your time chasing a relationship going no where.

Let me see if you can relate to this. You meet someone you are very much attracted to. You try and get their attention. You may have even succeeded in going out with them (you did the asking) and yet, there is no reciprocal action. He or she is happy to accept your invitations. However, they are not calling you. It is not reciprocal.

Not every one single person is motivated to marry. Just this week, I met a very handsome, polished professional 43-year-old man who is divorced with a college-aged child (who is out of the house). Finding love is the last thing on his to do list. What he is focused on is his career. He wants to be in a much better financial situation before thinking about getting serious with anyone.

I have heard this story over and over again from attractive, seemingly eligible single people who are really not on the market. If you are truly motivated to marry, you would be barking up the proverbial wrong tree. This is why it is important to look for people who are marriage minded.

These people are also putting a priority on finding love and want a life with that special person sooner than later. I do meet many perennially single people through my networking.

One of my coaching clients Kathy is a very attractive woman in her late 40s who had never been married. She met this very handsome man with his own business, divorced with children who live in a different city. What I found out was that she was making most of the effort and traveled to him to see him most times. This was going on for more than two years!

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Amy Schoen, MBA, CPCC

Illuminating Your Path to Finding Lasting Love

I work with marriage minded individuals who are ready to take charge of their dating efforts and learn a system of how to meet people who share their values so that they can find the right one and have the family life they so desire.

Location: Rockville, MD
Credentials: MBA
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