My friend Jonathan is self-employed and single. He talks about how it would be so nice to have a relationship in his life and yet I do not see him making the time for the process of dating. He tells me that his work is very demanding and that he is barely keeping up with his clients.
Having your own business or being self-employed is very challenging, as well as rewarding. Add being single to the equation and it can be a very lonely place to be. I was single while I ran a women's clothing boutique. Although I worked incredible hours and had a 7 day a week operation, I made a concerted effort to date and meet people which eventually led me to meeting my husband. This is how I recommend you fit in dating into your hectic work schedule:
1. Get Clear on What your Life Goals and Priorities Are
What are your goals and priorities in life?
Rank them from 1 to 6, 1 being the most important. What came up for you during this exercise?
Next, where do you see yourself in 5 years? Would you be happy being single at that time? It's time to be honest with yourself.
Just like you have a business plan for you business, you need to develop a life plan for you life. When you focus on obtaining and having the important things in life, they will happen for you.
2. Put your Personal Time on Your calendar and Stick to it!
When you decide to carve out some time for your personal life which may include the pursuit of meeting someone for a relationship, then make an appointment with yourself on your calendar. How many hours a week are you willing to commit to this endeavor?
You need to apply the same time management skills to your personal time as you do to your work time. Do you consider the event or activity for meeting people to date urgent , desirable or eventually need to do ?
Go ahead, put this date in your calendar and commit to keeping this appointment with yourself!
3. Decide on What Trade Offs You Are Willing To Make
Life is about trade offs. What are you willing to sacrifice to have what you want? It may be for a short time or a long time depending on your success on meeting the right person for you.
Are you willing to work less hours and make less money? Perhaps you would be willing to hire someone to do the work that is least desirable to you. I hired a bookkeeper even though I was very capable of doing the work myself. I ended up using a mailing service for my promotional materials when I did the labels for mailing myself early on in my business. I thought it was more important to free up my time for what I enjoyed rather doing the detailed, repetitive tasks. I hired smart college students to do some of the busy work for me. Even if you bring in help seasonally, it may free you up for a vacation or a long weekend!
Consider hiring an assistant to help you with writing letters, making appointments and following up with phone calls to your clients. Now virtual assistants are becoming very popular with business owners.
4. Use Efficient Dating Techniques