How To Make A Man Fall In Love And KEEP Him Interested

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Men have a problem. OK, in fairness, more than one, but in this article, I'm going to focus on their problem related to freedom.

Men want to be in a committed relationship — and they want to feel liberated. This can seem like a no-win situation, as many people think you can’t have it both ways. But can you?

A woman who knows how to give a man both his freedom and her attention holds the answer to the eternal question:

"How do I make him fall in love with me — and keep him interested forever?"

At their roots, men and women are inherently different. Women are more social and more communal. Men are more prone to enjoy their alone time.

Freedom is one of the most deeply valued assets for men.

That’s why the idea of commitment scares some of them. They’re afraid they’ll sacrifice themselves by entering into a union.

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Some of this is hyperbole — most men don’t have the urge to stay a player once they find the love of their life. And most don’t run away from a commitment like cartoon characters with their pants on fire. Still, men don't want to completely surrender their freedom either. And this is where compromise comes in.

If you want to keep a guy interested, you have to meet him in the middle in regard to his time.

Before we dive into the how you can do this, let’s explore a case study:

A woman named Joan (name changed for privacy) was dating a guy for several months when he suddenly broke up with her.

Joan, it turns out, was using a strategy she learned in her childhood in an effort to manage the relationship — she was being a people pleaser. She was an agreeable, affable, go-with-the-flow kind of female who avoided confrontation at all costs.

When her boyfriend broke up with her he said, “I feel like I’ve got to consistently walk around on eggshells with you and like I can’t be myself.”

The irony is that she felt the exact same way, and because of it both of them experienced a loss of individual freedom inside the relationship — the freedom to be who they are.

In order to understand how her pleasing demeanor turned out to be self-destructive, you have to understand how men are brought up in many cultures all over the world.

Men are taught from the time they are children that:

  • They should only experience a narrow spectrum of emotions.
  • They need to man up.
  • They need to be driven.
  • They need to provide.
  • There’s no crying in baseball — or anywhere else.

Men learn from a young age to disown a vital part of themselves — their emotional experience. In doing so, they wander through life with blinders on.

This isn't true of all men, of course. Some go out and read literature and work on themselves and improve their overall well-being. These men learn to recapture their emotions. But, unfortunately, most men don’t, and this leaves them yearning for the vulnerability and emotionality they can only find in a relationship.

Men see women as gatekeepers guarding their access point to the vibrant and rich world of feeling.

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When a man is with his woman, he experiences things he might not have experienced since he was a little boy. He’s able to do that because she gives him permission to allow himself to be vulnerable. He’s able to experience more of his own heart and enjoy more of what life has to offer.

So how exactly does a woman give her man permission to feel?

Here's the key: she does it by being the opposite of a people-pleaser. She brings her emotions to the table and expresses herself openly and honestly.

That means a relationship with her won't always be filled with warm fuzzy feelings. It means sometimes there will be anger and frustration and sadness. It means emotions. ALL emotions. The whole gamut.

When a woman fails to bring her own emotions to the table, she communicates that she doesn’t trust he is strong enough to handle ALL of her.

That sets up unspoken restrictions and limitations between you — and it is the exact opposite of how to make him want you.

You must be especially careful not to mask your emotions with nagging or complaining. If you come across as accusatory when you try to share what you feel, accusations are what he’ll respond to, not your emotions. When you repeatedly say things like, “You make me feel (insert negative thing here) ...” you put him on the defensive — and you minimize how you actually feel in the process.

There’s another way to do this, of course — a way that harbors honest communication and creates a deeper connection ...

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