2 Reasons Why Men HATE When You Play Hard To Get

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Playing hard to get could cause MAJOR problems in your dating life.

You've probably heard that you should "play hard to get" in order to attention from men and get them attracted to you, right?

You know—pretending that you're disinterested or too busy to give him much attention in the hopes that it will make him crazy about you. That kind of "hard to get."

However, today, I'm going to hopefully change your mind on that. Here are few reasons why playing hard to get is a very bad idea.

1. How you start the relationship is how you're going to have to maintain it.

That means that if you play hard to get in order to get the man interested in you and spending time with you, then you're going to have to continue doing that for the entirety of your relationship.

That could end up being a long time.

If you slip, even just for a bit, it will all come crashing down on you.

I know you might be thinking that you'll just do this now in the beginning to get you past the tough phase of getting him to commit. Then you'll ease off and "do things the right way" once the two of you have settled down.

It doesn't work that way though.

If you try that, he'll just end up thinking, "What happened to the woman I fell in love with? Where did she go?"

That's when the relationship will start to stagnate. The two of you might start arguing more.

Maybe he'll pull away emotionally. Maybe he'll cheat on you or flat out break up with you.

Men aren't that complicated. If a guy likes you, it's because he likes you for the way you're behaving. That is to say that he loves you the way that he found you.

By playing hard to get, you are sending a dishonest message to him about the kind of woman you are. He'll think that you are leading a rich and full life, when in reality you're just being insecure and manipulative.

When you start to change and drop the "hard to get" act, he'll feel like you did a bait and switch move with him and he'll feel betrayed.

So if you're going to play hard to get, yoU're going to have to keep doing it for a very, very long time.

I don't know about you, but I don't particularly want to plan ways of manipulating my partner when I'm in my eighties and sitting in my rocking chair on the front porch. That sounds like a lot of work.

I'd rather have the kind of relationship that I can relax into and just be myself.

2. It's based on a fundamental lie.

What is the lie?

You aren't good enough for someone to love you for who you are.

If you were good enough for someone to love the woman you are, then why would you need to play games?

And if you "succeed" and get the guy by being something you're not, I think that is the biggest failure of all.

I mean, can you imagine waking up in the morning, seeing your partner sleeping in bed next to you, all while wondering if he really loves you? Does he really love you or just the you that you made up?

That's not something I want for you.

In order to avoid that, you're going to have to drop the masks, drop the pretending and drop the games. If a man is ever going to love you for the woman you are, you need to do that right from the get-go.

That means being 100% yourself from day one.

If he doesn't love you for who you are, then fine. The two of you probably weren't a good match for one another anyway. It's best not to try to force it.

Here's what I can promise you: You absolutely do deserve someone who loves the real you. You are a wonderful person and a beautiful woman.

Please don't rob yourself and your partner of the gift of knowing and sharing who the two of you genuinely are by playing mind games like the whole "hard to get" thing.

I promise you that you'll be much happier in the end and you'll be setting yourself up for the kind of relationship that you really want.


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