The Truth About Men And Feelings
By Christian Carter. Posted on .
Instead of approaching a conversation thinking he's doing something on purpose or being insensitive, shift your awareness to thinking he just needs help understanding where you're coming from. Then, communicate from that place. Instead of saying, "I'm fed up that you never want to hang out with my friends," try a positive set up like this: "You know I want us both to feel happy in this relationship, and I always want to be honest with you. I notice that we don't do a lot of things with my friends, and I'd really like them to know you better. How do you think we can make this work for both of us?” When you talk to a man with a positive set-up like this, you're priming him to see that you are not looking to fight – you're looking to get things right.
In order to make a relationship work, it's critical for you to understand that men simply aren't "wired" the same way women are when it comes to connecting on an emotional level. But when you take responsibility for your own feelings and share them with him in a positive way, he'll see that you are a capable, competent woman who puts the relationship first – the kind of woman he wants to have at his side.
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