The Truth About Men And Feelings

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The Truth About Men And Feelings
How to tell what he's really thinking... and feeling.

But, when you demand that a man meet your emotional needs and you "lean" on him out of your own fears, frustrations, and uncertainty, you are setting both of you up for disappointment. No relationship can meet all your emotional needs. Relationships are supposed to be about growth, and not about becoming dependent on someone else meeting your emotional needs at any time you want.
 
TAKE THE LEAD IN POSITIVE COMMUNICATION

Now that you know you are much more adept at feeling your feelings and sharing them, use this knowledge to create a supportive environment for good communication with your man.  How?  First, always try to come from a place of compassion and understanding.  I know this is hard to do, but think about it – you get what you give.  And you will get a lot further with a man when you approach your interactions with him this way.  Understand that he doesn't "get” feelings and communication the way you do.  

Instead of approaching a conversation thinking he's doing something on purpose or being insensitive, shift your awareness to thinking he just needs help understanding where you're coming from.  Then, communicate from that place.  Instead of saying, "I'm fed up that you never want to hang out with my friends," try a positive set up like this: "You know I want us both to feel happy in this relationship, and I always want to be honest with you.  I notice that we don't do a lot of things with my friends, and I'd really like them to know you better.  How do you think we can make this work for both of us?”  When you talk to a man with a positive set-up like this, you're priming him to see that you are not looking to fight – you're looking to get things right.

In order to make a relationship work, it's critical for you to understand that men simply aren't "wired" the same way women are when it comes to connecting on an emotional level.  But when you take responsibility for your own feelings and share them with him in a positive way, he'll see that you are a capable, competent woman who puts the relationship first – the kind of woman he wants to have at his side.

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