He Loves Me, He Loves Me Not.

He Loves Me, He Loves Me Not.

Signs That He Loves You or at least is considering it.

One of the biggest challenges that the women in my Dating and Relationship Mastery course, F.L.I.R.T., seem to face is knowing if a man is into them or not. This lack of clarity offers them endless frustration and anxiety. My experience working with men has proven that there are sure-fire behaviors that reveal if he is into you or not.

1. HE ASKS YOU OUT This seems obvious. A man who is into you will go for what he wants. Women forget this and often jump the gun and ask men out because they can't stand the waiting. Even if a man says yes, the women is still left wondering if he likes her because she was the one who made the first move. This took away her opportunity to feel desired and pursued by him. In the F.L.I.R.T Course, the women learn how to invite a man to ask her out with out doing it for him. Men are afraid of rejection and need encouragement, but if we do the pursuing for them, the relationship rarely turns out the way we want it to.

2. HE CALLS YOU If a guy is into you, you rarely are wondering why he hasn't called you. He will make an effort to reach out and send little "Hi, how are you doing?" messages. If he is really into you he won't follow the three day rule of waiting to call you after a date. Emotionally available men let you know that they are thinking about you.

3. HE LOVES TO TOUCH YOU When a guy is really into you, making physical contact becomes involuntary. He might touch your shoulder, hip, hold your hand, or put his hand on your knee. He will want to touch you often. If you feel the same way about him, touching him back is a great way to get things rolling.

4. HE RETURNS YOUR PHONE CALLS IN A TIMELY FASHION So many women complain that they haven't heard back from their new love interest. This can drive women crazy beyond belief. If a man is into you, you will hear back from him within 24 hours. Now mind you a man's brain works differently then a woman's brain, and when he is busy doing something he has a single mind focus. He might not get back to you right away, but will when he is free. It is important to learn about how a man operates differently then a woman, so that these misperceptions don't get us all worked up. Learning "Man Speak", is what we call it in the F.L.I.R.T. Course.

5. HE MAKES TIME FOR YOU Even in our busy day to day lives, if a guy is into you he will make room for you in his schedule. If he is leaving town, he will make sure to see you before he goes. If he hasn't seen you all week, he will make plans with you for the weekend. He will want to make space for you in his life.

Basically, men know if they are into a woman right away and they go after what they want. If your new guy is causing you a lot of confusion and frustration of not knowing where he stands then, he might enjoy spending time with you , but he hasn't made that leap into wanting to share his life with you. Even though it hurts, waiting around for him to change will only bring more heart ache. It might be time to walk way. That said, there are ways to navigate through the 3 stages of relationship from casual to committed. So that you are successful.

For more information on how to Master Dating and Relationships so you can have an amazing man. Check out the F.L.I.R.T. Course for women.

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