The Divorcée's Guide To Casual Sex

By Cindy Holbrook. Posted on Jan 28th 2013.

Keeping it casual? Follow these rules.

7. Don't expect to be wined and dined. It is all about sex, it is not dating. It is not about getting to know one another on a deep emotional level. Do not call him and ask him for coffee or for long walks in the park.

8. Don't take him home. This is just not safe unless you have a very good idea of who the man is. You do not want to take the chance that the man will become a stalker after you have ended the relationship. You also do not want to take the chance of him meeting your children if they live with you.

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9. Don't make it personal. When the relationship is over, know that it has fulfilled its purpose. There is no need to be sad or grieve. You have learned the lessons that it brought you while providing immense personal pleasure.

10. Don't have casual sex with your ex. Many women are tempted to jump into bed with their ex because they feel it is safe. This is the worst thing you can do. You have way too much personal attachment with your ex for it ever to be casual.

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