Marriage is not just about love, it is a business arrangement as well.
Everyone has their own opinions on prenuptial agreements and question if they send a bad precedent before marriage. But, divorce is a possibility whether you would want to address those feelings now or not. Life has no guarantees and there is no way to know if 2 or 10 years down the road you decide the marriage is not repairable. When you get married, you never want to think about the possibility of it ending, but with the divorce rate being so high, it is something that every pre-marriage phase couples need to think about and give credence to.
If a marriage doesn't work out, the likelihood of it being a cordial break up and everyone agreeing on every little thing, is slim to none. Sure, there are a select few who can accomplish a amicable divorce, but more often than not there is going to be some resentment and angry feelings involved, especially for the person who was dumped. They will have a major hit to their ego and instead of being logical about their feelings, they will direct their anger towards getting their exes back. Divorce becomes revenge and anything you two had discussed before with regards to the marriage not working out, goes out the window. Every couple says in the beginning if things do not work out, I will not fight with you or I will not take this or take that. And then the gloves come off and it's everyone for them self. Even the attorneys will get nasty and become too emotionally involved.
I have seen every end of the spectrum when it comes to divorce. You have mutual break ups, the extremely angry break ups, and the starting out mutual only to turn into a battle until even the toothbrush was accounted for. This is why pre-nups are such a necessary asse pre-marriage; you can put everything in this legal document and no matter who breaks up with whom, the pre-nup will stand. It is very rare that a judge goes against the original pre-nup legal document.
I know some people think that this process is unromantic and that it brings down the happy celebratory vibe you two have. My response to that, it only has that effect on your situation because you are allowing it to. All you are doing is laying out every asset you have and making sure you are protected down the road and that your kids are protected if you choose to have them or already have them. So put the romance feelings aside, it's just smart to have one set up regardless if you are wealthy or not. Which ever you decide, always remember: There is a difference between marrying the love of your life and divorcing the man you thought was the love of your life.
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