ProConnect

To Have and To Hold For the Rest of Your Life...

By

To Have and To Hold For the Rest of Your Life...
What marriage means to me and is it a deal breaker for me...

I am turning 30 in December which is a big year. The year you should have your life planned out to a "T" but here it is, I am turning 30 and I have nothing planned love wise. At my age most have gotten married or are getting married. Most have kids or are about to have a child. And me? Well I have none of that and I do not even have a man in my life right now that I could even say I would marry. To me, marriage is not guaranteed happiness. I have friends who are already divorced, my parents are also divorced and it is just not that important in my life to find someone, marry them and have children. I have always thought I would never marry and have kids, I always felt my life was better used as a writer and if anything or anyone came along then great. If it didn't I wasn't concerned because lets be honest here in the world of technology and batteries I do not need someone per say.
Of course it would be nice to have someone share my life and theirs, but that is not a deal breaker and it is not what I search for. I have a great intuition and I find men who suit me and are not likely to settle down with me. I figure it is easier to find men who are commitment phobes than the men who want a relationship, but I sometimes get them wrong and they end up wanting more than I had bargained for. So I end up moving on and quickly. I know in my 30's I may change my tactic, but for now it is serving its purpose. I have been in love three times in my life all of them ending not the way I planned. So in my mind it is easier to be a "player" than to be the emotional whiny girl. I have never enjoyed someone contacting me constantly either through text messages or calling or even being together every minute of the day. I honestly feel claustrophobic when I have someone needy and always wanting to be with me. Maybe I am just projecting what I think I should do since I pick the wrong men? I do not have feelings for someone easily, I have never seen someone and thought "He will be the man I marry" Sure, I have had lust at first sight, but when people tell me they saw their significant other and "knew" I am thinking knew what? Only because you don't know that person. Even ten years later of being with the same person you do not truly know them. People change every day. They change their beliefs, their opinions on things and even mutual decisions they have made with their spouse changes. So to me to truly know someone inside out is not something we can say and have someone like me believe.

Share this with someone you love (or even like a lot)!

Let's make it
FB official
Article contributed by
Advanced Member

Christy Goldstein

Dating Coach

Christy Goldstein

Ask me about my free strategic sessions!

http://www.crazystupidloveadvice.com

Also check out www.singleswarehouse.co.uk

www.nouveaudating.com

http://simplysxy.com

 

Location: Columbus, OH
Credentials: Other
Specialties: Dating/Being Single Support, Empowering Women, Sexuality
Other Articles/News by Christy Goldstein:

The Best Breakup Ever! Well Played Sir, Well Played.

By

You always hear about these crazy break up stories and you are just in awe that someone was that creative to do the breaking up deed in such a creative way, that you possibly question their sanity. Now, this story isn’t creative by any means. I do give him credit for the absurdity of it all. I have been seeing a guy off and on for two years. There ... Read more

How Long Should You Wait For Someone To Text Back?

By

Texting is the easiest way of communication, but unfortunately it lacks that genuine response time or the "voice" you want it to have. With regards to dating this can be a detrimental thing. I know a lot of women who text a man and if they don't hear back with in that hour they have already gone through their minds about the last time they were ... Read more

Top 5 Men’s Underwear Brands for Everyday Men

By

Ladies and Gents, ever wonder what brands your man looks for to meet his underwear needs? You already know whether he's a boxer or briefs guy, but do you know if he's a Calvin or Hanes man? Look no further, he's probably wearing one of the top 5 men's underwear brands for everyday men. You've definitely heard of all of the brands ... Read more

See More

Recent Expert Posts
Neglected Wife

7 Reasons You Are Still Single

Are you tired of the single status?

Computer Problems

Dear Dr. Romance: He said I was a false friend.

You need to stop living in a fantasy world, and base your life on reality, not romantic daydreams.

Life Coach Explains Why I Am Upset When I Spend Money

I Love To Spend Money. So Why Do I Hate Myself When I Do?

You have the money, but you still don't feel like you deserve what you buy.

Ask The Experts

Have a dating or relationship question?
Visit Ask YourTango and let our experts and community answer.

Resources
How to find the right pro for you
10 Reasons Mental Health Pros Should Join YourTango Experts

10 Reasons Mental Health Pros Should Join YourTango Experts

YourTango Experts can help your business go from good to great.

10 Steps To Improve Your Coaching Business

Take your coaching business from mediocre to great in no time…

Frequently Asked Questions About YourTango Experts

Thinking of joining? Here's all the facts you need to know to make the most of your membership.

Getting Your Guy To Join You In A Therapy Or Coaching Session

So how can your get your strong, self-reliant, superman to talk to an Expert with you?

Therapist/Counselors: Who We Are & What We Do

What exactly does a therapist/counselor do and can they really help?

See more resources>
HOT STUFF!
FROM OUR PARTNERS