Friends With Benefits.
By Christy Goldstein. Posted on .
Some’s intuition is better than others. But, when you are dealing with love and relationships it is always best to go with your gut intuition. I know many women and men who had an intuition who they were with, weren't right for them and then look back and wish they wouldn't have wasted their time on that relationship.
My intuition has been pretty spot on. Sometimes, I have listened to it and sometimes I pushed it back for a while, but it never fails what I thought in the first few weeks or even the first day. I have friends right now who are all in different places in their lives with relationships. Myself I am pretty content where I am with my guy. But some of my friends bide their times with someone or should I say anyone because their lives don't have time for much, but a friends with benefits situation.
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Everyone goes through this situation in their lives. Whether early on or constantly throughout their lives depending on what is going on with their life. I have done the friends with benefits and it worked for the most part because I had no time but for the occasional get together. But, I did not ever think that I could turn that benefit situation into a relationship. That has become the difference between me and my friends.
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I can handle friends with benefits pretty easily. It takes no effort on my part to handle that type of relationship. I do not ever want more or less and it just works for me. But, a lot of girls or even my friends depending how long they have been with that "friend" they start to think or should I say their ego thinks that they may want to proceed with a relationship with this person.
Now with friends with benefits this is not supposed to be a fuzzy situation! You both agreed in the beginning to the terms and trying to change those terms midway through or even after a couple of months you may see that it wasn't going to work regardless if you kept it the same way or changed it. Your first thinking on that person and what you wanted is usually what will remain. Habits early in a relationship are hard to break and if you start changing things, one of you won't be able to deal with it. So if you want a friends with benefits know that that's exactly what it is! Regardless, if you see them with someone else!
