Why do we put more emphasis on Facebook than we do on our actual relationships?
By Christy Goldstein — Written on Jul 03, 2012
It has come to my attention that my generation believes if a relationship is not "Facebook official," then the relationship is not real. This means that if the "in a relationship" box is not checked off on a profile, then the relationship is nonexistent.
When did Facebook take over our lives? Why is it that if something happens to us — whether it's something funny, sad or mean — we go to Facebook first to let our "friends" know? Why has Facebook taken over our lives, and most importantly, our relationships?
Remember when we had to pick up the phone to discuss something with someone, or discussed the issue in person? While it is great that social networking has advanced, our conversations have become so impersonal that we do not know if a friend's Facebook status should be taken seriously. Facebook Doesn't Ruin Relationships. People Do.
How did we resort to using Facebook and Twitter to find out about the latest gossip surrounding our friends? Why is it okay that we have allowed technology and social networking to rule our lives?
Facebook and Twitter can be a great tool to tell people things without contacting them individually. However, telling everyone on Facebook that you are pregnant before telling the father is wrong on so many levels.
We have been conditioned to check our Facebook profiles and newsfeeds every second of the day, and now, even our cell phones have the capability to update Facebook and Twitter simultaneously.
Have we become lazy? Technological advancements have created simpler methods of doing things to save time and energy. For some tasks, this is a great thing, but what are we teaching the children of the next generation? ... that your relationship with your boyfriend or girlfriend is not real unless it is posted on Facebook? How To Handle A Breakup On Facebook
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We have become so subdued that when Facebook changes a feature, my newsfeed fills with complaints about it for several hours. Lets face it, that change is the most important thing of the day for everyone. Heaven forbid we start thinking about the important things that seldom make someone's status update, such as the country's overwhelming debt and the wars that are being fought throughout the world. Facebook Syndrome: Do You Have The Disease?
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Being "Facebook official" is a concept that I do not agree with because in a few weeks, your relationship status will go back to "single." So, why bother? It only takes a few seconds to go from being in a relationship to being single. Why let everyone know? It is not like Facebook makes or breaks a relationship. However, if you put more emphasis on being "Facebook official," than you do on your actual relationship, it will.
This article was originally published at Nouveau Dating . Reprinted with permission from the author.