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Why Your Dating Checklist Doesn't Work

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Why Your Dating Checklist Doesn't Work [EXPERT]
Your list won't get you anywhere.
Why you should ditch the list and open up a world of possibility!

Lately, a lot of women who are single have been making lists of what they want and don't want in a man and a relationship. But do those actually work, or are they turning away possible love matches because of these extensive lists?

I have seen a lot of women pass up good men because either they are too short, have the wrong hair color, have kids, were divorced, etc. They crossed off every man that came their way that did not match their list to a tee.

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All you ladies out there that make these lists and check off men that don't match up are more than likely still single ... but you don't have to be! Screw the list and take a chance on someone who may be two inches shorter than what you want. After all, it can't hurt to give it a try.

Lists can work to an extent but to use them as an "all or nothing" type deal will not work most of the time. Many of the things on their checklists are inconceivable and unattainable. To think that one person will have fifty to a hundred things on your list is insane! What would you do if the men started making a checklist and the guy you wanted rejected you because you didn't fit his criteria? Wouldn't you feel low about yourself? 

Of course, you can expect the normal things that a man should possess such as being nice, sweet, generous, courteous ect. But to put on your list his height, weight, job title and his hair color is just a time consuming stunt that won't work out 99% of the time. There is always going to be a dealbreaker for people and that is fine if, for example, you want to cut your losses when the guy doesn't have a college degree or he has children or was divorced.

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To include the superficial reasons on why you won't date someone, however, will undoubtedly render you single for a long time.

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