50 Things You Should Try For Hotter Sex
ProConnect

Why Your Dating Checklist Doesn't Work

By

Why Your Dating Checklist Doesn't Work [EXPERT]
Your list won't get you anywhere.
Why you should ditch the list and open up a world of possibility!

Lately, a lot of women who are single have been making lists of what they want and don't want in a man and a relationship. But do those actually work, or are they turning away possible love matches because of these extensive lists?

I have seen a lot of women pass up good men because either they are too short, have the wrong hair color, have kids, were divorced, etc. They crossed off every man that came their way that did not match their list to a tee.

More from YourTango: How Long Should You Wait For Someone To Text Back?

All you ladies out there that make these lists and check off men that don't match up are more than likely still single ... but you don't have to be! Screw the list and take a chance on someone who may be two inches shorter than what you want. After all, it can't hurt to give it a try.

Lists can work to an extent but to use them as an "all or nothing" type deal will not work most of the time. Many of the things on their checklists are inconceivable and unattainable. To think that one person will have fifty to a hundred things on your list is insane! What would you do if the men started making a checklist and the guy you wanted rejected you because you didn't fit his criteria? Wouldn't you feel low about yourself? 

Of course, you can expect the normal things that a man should possess such as being nice, sweet, generous, courteous ect. But to put on your list his height, weight, job title and his hair color is just a time consuming stunt that won't work out 99% of the time. There is always going to be a dealbreaker for people and that is fine if, for example, you want to cut your losses when the guy doesn't have a college degree or he has children or was divorced.

More from YourTango: Top 5 Men’s Underwear Brands for Everyday Men

To include the superficial reasons on why you won't date someone, however, will undoubtedly render you single for a long time.

More dating advice from YourTango Experts:

Share this with someone you love (or even like a lot)!

Let's make it
FB official
Article contributed by
Advanced Member

Christy Goldstein

Dating Coach

Christy Goldstein

Ask me about my free strategic sessions!

http://www.crazystupidloveadvice.com

Also check out www.singleswarehouse.co.uk

www.nouveaudating.com

And check out another website I write for http://www.its-not-you-its-me.com/ a great website about how to break up with someone and relationship advice!

 

Location: Columbus, OH
Credentials: Other
Specialties: Dating/Being Single Support, Empowering Women, Sexuality
Other Articles/News by Christy Goldstein:

How Long Should You Wait For Someone To Text Back?

By

Texting is the easiest way of communication, but unfortunately it lacks that genuine response time or the "voice" you want it to have. With regards to dating this can be a detrimental thing. I know a lot of women who text a man and if they don't hear back with in that hour they have already gone through their minds about the last time they were ... Read more

Top 5 Men’s Underwear Brands for Everyday Men

By

Ladies and Gents, ever wonder what brands your man looks for to meet his underwear needs? You already know whether he's a boxer or briefs guy, but do you know if he's a Calvin or Hanes man? Look no further, he's probably wearing one of the top 5 men's underwear brands for everyday men. You've definitely heard of all of the brands ... Read more

Flirting On Facebook: How Social Media Changed Our Dating Lives

By

By now, almost everyone has Facebook, Twitter, Keek, Instagram, Vine, etc. So, with all these social media outlets, how does it fair in love? I personally feel like social media has taken over our lives. When you are friends with the guy or girl you are seeing, you scour their Facebook activity to see who is commenting the most on their statuses and if they are ... Read more

See More

Recent Expert Posts
couple argue

Emotional Vampires: Must-Know Skills For Dealing With Narcissists

Expert Margaret Jacobson shares insights gained from Albert Bernstein's, book "Emotional Vampires".

Love: 10 Ways To Get Out Of Your Comfort Zone

10 Challenges That Will Get You Out Of Your Comfort Zone

Don't be afraid to push the envelope — you'll achieve greater happiness!

Hug Text

The "Secret" To Love And Connection: Awareness

This one is for those of you still trying to work out the secret to finding that perfect connection.

Ask The Experts

Have a dating or relationship question?
Visit Ask YourTango and let our experts and community answer.

Resources
How to find the right pro for you
10 Reasons Mental Health Pros Should Join YourTango Experts

10 Reasons Mental Health Pros Should Join YourTango Experts

YourTango Experts can help your business go from good to great.

10 Steps To Improve Your Coaching Business

Take your coaching business from mediocre to great in no time…

Frequently Asked Questions About YourTango Experts

Thinking of joining? Here's all the facts you need to know to make the most of your membership.

Getting Your Guy To Join You In A Therapy Or Coaching Session

So how can your get your strong, self-reliant, superman to talk to an Expert with you?

Therapist/Counselors: Who We Are & What We Do

What exactly does a therapist/counselor do and can they really help?

See more resources>
HOT STUFF!
FROM OUR PARTNERS