Over 50 And Wanting To Date? Here's How To Get Started!


Over 50 And Wanting To Date? Here's How To Get Started!
Ready to jump into the dating "pool" but afraid the water looks a bit deep or scary?

Were you married for over 20 years and now find yourself single? Did you try dating and it seems all the rules have changed? Perhaps your friends don't know any singles to introduce you to. Or maybe you're afraid Internet dating is filled with scammers and liars (not to mention it's complicated and expensive).

Divorce and death are creating more singles than ever before. According to a USA Today article, the number of men and women over 60 living single in the USA in 2011 was 11,500,000, an increase of 7% since 2005.

These numbers could seem discouraging if you think this way: "If there are so many single people my age, why aren't I meeting them?"

I’d like to suggest another way to look at this: "How wonderful that there are so many single people my age that I have the potential to meet and where can I meet them?"

Like most of us, you probably have platonic friends to share activities with such as lunch, theater, golf, dinner, and walking. And like most of us you'd like to have a romantic partner for some of these activities as well. So, the $64,000 question is — where do you find those elusive singles?

If your daily routine has become "routine" then I suggest using a method I teach my coaching clients called "visiting a variety of pools." You can imagine — if you go to the same places with the same people — the odds are small you'll meet new single people. By visiting a variety of new pools you'll definitely meet some new people and have the opportunity to get to know them as potential friends and/or potential dates.

You might have plenty of friends and wonder why I'm suggesting you make new friends. Making new friends is important because your new friends will invite you to visit their pools of friends and activities, which gives you the opportunity to meet new and interesting people you might not have met any other way.

So how do you do this? Let's start with the most comfortable pool in your life — your own personal pool. Your personal pool includes family, friends, and colleagues. The people you're already doing things with.

Then, shake it up a bit. When you go out with people from your personal pool, pick a different place (not somewhere you normally go). For example, a different restaurant, walking path, or theater. Pay attention to who is there. Does someone look interesting? Chat with them to get acquainted and to see if you have interests in common. A few ideas:

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Christine Baumgartner

Dating Coach

I believe you want to love and be loved. And if the love you desire and deserve isn't currently in your life, then let's talk so you can turn the “work” of love into play by putting in place the right techniques for you to finally bring that love into your life.

I know (because it's how I met and married my husband) that once you become The Perfect Catch you'll definitely attract The Perfect Catch.

Christine Baumgartner

Dating and Relationship Expert

The Perfect Catch



Location: Laguna Niguel, CA
Credentials: Other
Specialties: Dating/Being Single Support, Life Transitions, Marriage
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