As a culture and as human beings, we spend just about as much time talking about and thinking about our relationships, and our relationship status as we do about how we are going to pay our bills and lose 5 lbs. Millions of dollars, maybe even trillions of dollars, are spent trying to find the one, make the one we have better, and decide if the one we have is really the one we want!
In all of these questions about our ‘relationships’ we often get mixed up and lose sight of what we are really after – LOVE. So we continue to live with a craving that never gets satisfied – we are hungry for love, but we are feeding ourselves the wrong food. It’s not your fault, your mind has gotten all confused because of the misunderstandings about love that run rampant in our society. Today we take a step towards getting your mind and your life in alignment with the truth about love by empowering you with three of the most powerful rules of love and daring acts that will help you employ them – which when applied will not only give you the relationships you want, but more importantly the love that you need.
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Love Rule #1: Focus on Love not Relationships. There is a big misunderstanding that love and relationships are the same thing – while they are related, they are not the same. Most of us walk around saying or thinking we want a ‘relationship’ when in reality what we really need and desire is more love, in one of its many forms – connection, friendship, intimacy, compassion, companionship, affection, acknowledgement, and the list goes on. Change your focus to cultivating love and to generating the energy of that love you desire in your life instead of on finding or fixing a relationship and you’ll find that you have more love and better relationships as a result.
Daring Act of Love: Ask for what you really want – LOVE. If you are single, stop saying “I want a relationship.” Start being specific about the love energy you want to pull in, “I am so ready to receive love from an awesome, compassionate, loving life partner” or “I am so ready to receive love from a sexy, sweet lover and companion.” If you are in relationship and desire more, be specific about what you desire to receive from this person, and be willing to give it too, “I'd love to receive more affection and intimacy” or “I’d love to receive more companionship and closeness.” Notice how saying these words invokes the energy of the L-O-V-E right away! Which leads to #2.
Love Rule #2: Every relationship starts with the relationship you have with yourself. Okay, so you’ve probably heard this one but are you really living it? I haven’t met a person yet who couldn’t stand to improve the relationship that they have with themselves. And if something isn’t working for you in getting the love you desire from out there, then you need to find what’s first not working with the love and relationship you have with yourself.
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