5. Know What Makes You Happy
Stop trying to fit into the expectations and ideals that outside forces — society, family, work, friends — have said you should be in order to be successful, happy, and accepted this holiday and ask one really simple question, "What really makes ME happy?" Think about the times that you've been happiest during the holidays. Who were you being? What did you have? What were you doing? Do the same for your most unhappy times. Compare the two to your life today and notice the gaps.
6. Pay Attention To Your Emotions
We all have emotional triggers, things that set us off or that evoke an overly strong reaction, and the holidays are prime time for them to come up. Pay attention to situations that make you spin, get your mad factor going or that send you into a pool of suffering. Be the boss of your emotions by having and taking responsibility for them, and don't let them drive your life. Happiness is a choice (yes, even when a relative is driving you crazy.) Put yourself in situations that create happiness and remove yourself from conversations and experiences that don't. Be Yourself, Everyone Else is Already Taken: Transform Your Life with the Power of Authenticity
7. Act On What You Know Will Make You Happy, Even If It's Hard
Putting your happiness first isn't always easy. It often requires going against what everyone else is doing or thinking. If you aren't true to what feels right for you (even if it doesn't fit the needs and sensibilities of other people) aren't you just selling yourself out? You always know what the best action is to take for you, it's just not always easy. Be committed to your happiness, even when it's scary, and even when other people don't like it.
8. Have An Opinion And Express It
If you don't like the way things are going — like the plans your family is making or the way the holidays have created stress in the past — speak up. Know what you believe and don't be afraid to express it. Happy people have convictions that come from inside their souls, minds, and hearts. They know their truth and are willing to stand in it, even when what they have to say makes others uncomfortable. Know your truth deserves to be heard, just because you're you.
9. Let Others See You. Be Vulnerable.
Share your most real self with the people around you — family, friends, and colleagues — and let them see all of you. The strong, the weak, the self-assured, the self-doubter, the funny, and the serious. Have and show your emotions fully, from sadness, to happiness, to anger, and joy. When you keep the full range of you hidden, no one can know who you truly are, and that creates unhappiness. While it may feel scary to be vulnerable, you'll find that the more you show the real you, the more others will be willing to share their authentic self too, and the more connected and happy you'll be. 6 Safe Conversation Topics For Thanksgiving