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How to make sure you feel the joy this December, regardless of what's happening in your love life.

While the holidays are advertised to bring us cheer, joy, and gifts, what many of us also end up with is a rack full of stress, guilt, and debt. Why? Because we listen to the negative voices in our head telling us to buy more, eat more, visit more and do more — when we are already stretched for time, money, and energy. 5 Ways To Stay Honest About Your Spending

These self-sabotaging voices are the voices of your inner mean girls and inner bullies. Some call them the "inner critic," but they are way more personal than that! They are like the Grinch who stole Christmas. They too will steal the joy, peace, and happiness from your holidays!

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You have to be smarter than these inner Grinches and take back your power this holiday season so you can really soak in the joy, connection, and celebration you deserve. The following are 10 ways you can outsmart your inner mean girl or inner bully. For more secrets to holiday happiness, get a download of a free "holiday rescue" call at www.innermeangirl.com.

1. Stop Worrying About What Others Think
You can't be responsible for how everyone around you feels about how you live your life, so stop worrying about how your family, partner and friends will react to your choices and start getting real about how you feel about your life. Ask yourself, "How do I feel about …" Give yourself permission to put yourself first. 

2. Do Things Because You Want To
Throw away the big O, Obligation. Give up the gnarly G, Guilt. Make a commitment to do what you want this holiday season, even if that means you don't do what other people want or expect of you. If you do choose to do something you aren't so jazzed about, challenge yourself to do it from a place of love. Ask, "What is it about this action that does matter to me?" and act from that place. It's all about the attitude. You can choose to be a martyr and a victim, or you can choose to be happy. Stop Sabotaging Your Love Life!

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3. Give Up The Image
We all construct images of who we think we are and who we want the world to see, and then attempt to live up to them. Don't try to live up to other people's expectations, or for that matter, your unrealistic expectations either. If you're low on cash this year, be okay with that. If you aren't feeling super happy, don't put on a fake smile. Don't try to impress your guy's family or friends or fit into what everyone else is doing. Be yourself, exactly where you are right now. 

4. Boldly Express Your Unique Spin On The Holidays
Want a Christmas wreath instead of a tree? Prefer Chinese food instead of a turkey? Celebrate Solstice instead of Christmas, but love to light candles at Chanukah? Like sending New Years cards and gifts vs. holiday cards? Tradition isn't always better, and it certainly doesn't always make you happy. Be bold enough to express the way you choose to interpret the holidays. 4 Ways To Protect Your Relationship During the Holidays

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