3. Be someone your partner will want to spend time with. Put the nagging and criticism aside and be charming, fun and engaging again — our partners are more drawn to us when we're happy.
4. Reconnect with each other for at least ten minutes a day. Do it either before you get out of bed in the morning, before you go to sleep at night or any other time during the day that you can sneak off and have ten minutes of uninterrupted conversation. Power down all of your electronics, make eye contact and just talk. It doesn't need to be serious — just talk about your day and what your plans are for tomorrow. Have light-hearted chit-chat. It will help stop you from drifting apart from one another, and it will help bring the spark back.
5. Act loving even when you don't feel like it ... because people will always remember how you make them feel. If you don't have loving words to share, loving actions can go a long way too.
Christina Steinorth MA MFT is a psychotherapist and a popular relationship expert on radio and in print. Her advice has been featured in publications such as Wall Street Journal, USA Today, Woman's Day, Fox News Magazine, and The Chicago Tribune, among many others. Her critically acclaimed new book is Cue Cards for Life: Thoughtful Tips for Better Relationships (Hunter House, 2013). You can order it here: http://www.amazon.com/Cue-Cards-Life-Thoughtful-Relationships/dp/0897936167