8 Steps To Finding New Love In 2013

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Are you looking for a fresh relationship?

5. Get set up. Ask your girlfriends if they know of anyone who might be right for you. Friends are a great way to meet people because it's like an automatic screening procedure.

6. Go online. I have heard that one in five relationships starts online. Just be careful and follow your instincts. If something doesn't feel right about what a person is telling you, it probably isn't. Meet within three months to see if you're compatible in person.

I can't even tell you how many times I hear of men and women corresponding for months online only to find out, when it comes time to meet in person, that they aren't compatible ... or worse, the person lied about his/her identity. Don't tie your love life up online! Meet in person to see if things work.

7. Be a great date. A first date won't lead to a second if you're not a great date. Be interesting, be funny, look your best and leave your negativity at home. Men will find you more attractive if you have a generally pleasant disposition. I know of very few men who enjoy dating a diva.

8. Don't give up. Just because you haven't met anyone by March doesn't mean you won't mean anyone by June. The only way you won't meet anyone for sure is if you stop trying.

I wish you much love in 2013!

Christina Steinorth, MA, MFT is a Licensed Psychotherapist and the Author of Cue Cards for Life: Thoughtful Tips for Better Relationships. You can order her book here.

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