Because I lived with that attitude in my acting days. Until I met a BRILLIANT friend. She said, “Why wait?”
I said, “What do you mean?”
She said, “Let’s go get the hottest agents in town to love us.”
To which I replied, “But we can’t get into their offices without a referral!”
She just looked at me as she picked up the phone and started dialing BIG TIME managers offices. One of the managers just happened to be Hally Berry’s manager. She told the guard dog (I mean assistant) that she was returning Mr. Cirincionne’s call. “Returning” as in he called us. The guard dog (oops assistant) rushed my friend through to speak with this manager. Well, needless to say, my amazing friend got us in… and the cool part of this story is that this manager actually ended up signing me. If my gf had a “waiting to be picked” mentality, I would never have gotten in to this office.
I share this with you and ask, are you waiting to be picked? In your business are you waiting to be picked for speaking gigs or with clients? In your love life are you waiting to be picked by the man of your dreams? When it comes to people you admire and would like to be friends with are you waiting to be picked?
And if so, how can you shift your perspective? Years ago, I had a BAM (that’s what we at the Bye Bye Good Girl headquarters call a BadAssMoment) that shifted my whole life view and of course changed my life. The BAM was; I no longer wanted to live from the place of “waiting to be picked.” Instead I wanted to live from the thought “They are lucky to have me.” That was the value I wanted to bring to the table. And so I did.
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