Has this happened to you?
Here is the thing - I've watched so many wonderful, powerful, and committed women put themselves last. They get subsumed by helping their team, their employers, and co-workers, and at the end of the day they are just...trapped. Stuck in their suits with nothing left to give, and nothing to really nourish themselves.
And because of that - they are still single.
The woman who was overweight and worked 80 hours a week - never making time for a date. The co-worker who showed up to every date late, and when she was there, all she was thinking about was work, not him.
If a man showed up late, stressed and unfocused on your date - would you want to see him again?
So if this is you, it's time to take a close look and figure out who you want to be - the woman who enjoys dates and has a relationship, or the woman who can't seem to find a man (or time for herself).
"Right Christie" you are probably saying in your head right now "Easier said that done. My job is hard and frustrating, and I don't have the time right now to do what I want."
Well - I'm here to tell you differently.
We spend over 3,000 hours a year at work, and unhappiness on the job leaks into every other aspect of our lives...especially our dating lives. But the good news? There are short AND long-term solutions! I promise :).
1. Before a date, block time on your calendar to decompress. Say whatever you want it to be "Meeting with client" "Prep work for meeting" or whatever makes you feel ok, but do it. Then you can't get overscheduled, if things run over you will have a few extra minutes handy to collect yourself, and you can take the time to take a few deep breaths.
2. Take a few deep breaths. Nothing calms you down and refocuses you more than breathing. And, I'm not talking about a quick in-and-out type of breath. I'm talking about sitting back in your chair, putting your hand on your stomach, and breathing in for a count of five and out for a count of five, and do it at least three times. Why? Well - it relaxes you, allows you to refocus, and takes away some of the "I'm tired and I feel like crap" feeling that otherwise might have walked out of the door with you.
3. Remind yourself that it will all be there tomorrow. Seriously, your job may be a drag now, and the (not-so) good news: it will be there to drag you down again tomorrow! But in this moment tonight, you can actually do something about it, and decide to let. it.