Well, the reality is that men often experience this same kind of thing with women. When a relationship starts to get more comfortable, more predictable, and has more routines in it, the kind of intense passion that a man once felt can sometimes fizzle out.
But what fizzles out isn't just about the physical part of the relationship; it has to do with something I call "emotional attraction".
EMOTIONAL ATTRACTION: HOW A MAN STAYS IN LOVE
Emotional attraction is the thing that gets a man to open up, to share his feelings and connect with a woman on a deeper level than he usually allows into his life. It's what bonds a man to one woman over the long term.
When a man says that he doesn't feel "in love" with you anymore, what he's really saying is...
"I used to feel both physical and emotional attraction with you. But the way our relationship has been, I'm not feeling much if any of that emotional attraction now. And because of that, what I feel in my heart and my head tells me that something is ‘off' in our relationship, and I don't know what to do about it."
WHAT HE NEEDS TO FEEL IT AGAIN
When a man asks for or creates distance or space, it's tempting to try to resist it and grab on tighter...but that only backfires. That's because people naturally tend to want to run away from that which is running to them. He'll feel like you're forcing closeness, and he'll want out of it.
Instead, you want to create emotional attraction between the two of you in order to reconnect. Here's how.
1. Allow him the space he needs and take some space for yourself
That means you take all that energy and attention you've been putting into holding the relationship together and instead redirect it towards your own life: your friends, your hobbies, whatever makes you happy.
When you do this, something magical happens. First, you feel empowered over the situation so that your emotions do not overtake you. Second, men often move past their own doubts and fears in their own time when given space (a few hours or days) to do so.
2. Shake things up a little to create interest and excitement for both of you
Remember what I said before about attraction and love happening for a man because of newness and unpredictability?
Learn what being in love really means to a man...and what to do if he’s not “feeling it” anymore.