How To Know What A Man Is Really Thinking

Years ago I had a huge learning experience when it came to using and listening to my intuition in the right way. My managers at work were talking about me and scrutinizing my work more closely than they had before. Feeling and sensing the scrutiny, I immediately felt worried about my job and wondered if they were thinking about letting me go. My gut told me that something bad was coming.

I decided to push myself even harder at work to try and show them how valuable I was in hopes that I would keep my job. But that uncomfortable and nervous feeling in my stomach that came with my intuition about their scrutiny of my work stayed with me for the next several weeks.

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A few weeks later I was called into a meeting with the managers who had been watching me closely. I immediately started defending my job and showing my insecurities. They quickly stopped me and let me know that they had been watching my performance because they wanted to put me in charge of a new division. They wanted to be confident in their decision so they paid extra attention to my work to be sure—and now they were. I breathed a huge sigh of relief and my mood completely changed. End of story.

Thinking back, my intuition had alerted me so that I'd be aware of what was going on. But the mistake I made was taking that information and using it to justify my own fears and insecurities. If I would have taken the information, been patient with it and applied it towards my goals in a positive context, then the entire experience knowing that the managers were watching my work would have been fun and enjoyable.

But I didn't use my intuition to see my way to something better, I simply used it as a means to worry and stress myself out. So all this talk about intuition. How does it really apply to the men in your life, dating and relationships? Well, take a man with some of those common negative behaviors we were talking about earlier:

- fear of intimacy
- inability to commit
- flirting, cheating

Intuition can help you see past these things and understand them in the larger context of the deeper real "psychological and emotional stuff" that's hiding beneath the surface. Your intuition could even help you cut through a man's ego and persona to get to the real person that's hard to find.

I bet you've known a man who other women think would never settle down or have a sensitive side. But you've seen that this actually does have more long term intimate feelings and emotional attachments buried underneath. Intuition is probably the best tool for being able to identify good and bad qualities in a man—and knowing them for what they are.

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A man's external or surface behavior and attitude can be very different than his deeper desires and intentions—as you probably already know. Some men are, unfortunately, just good at playing the part of an emotionally stable, available and loving guy for a while, even if they aren't. So it's really up to YOU to learn to get to the "deeper emotional truth" of any man you're interested in or dating. And yeah, I know men can be so frustrating for women.