Using your intuition might be the best, and in some situations the ONLY, way that you'll be able to see through all the external "behavior stuff" going on with a man and get to the truth of what's really happening inside his mind and what his behavior is when you're not around. Like when a man plays hard to get, or he doesn't call you much or initiate, or when a man gets close and then withdraws from you right after. Why do men do this?
For each one of these I've got some interesting insights and theories that can help. But from my perspective, there are some extremely important concepts that you need to understand before you can really "get" where a man is coming from or understand what his behaviors and issues are all about.
Here are some of the most important concepts you'll need to keep in your mind as you move towards listening to and using your intuition with men:
1. Men Don't Make Sense
All those frustrating things that men do that don't make any sense to you as a woman will NEVER MAKE SENSE. Stop trying to make sense of them for yourself. Trying to make sense of a man in your own terms is entirely counterproductive and gets little or no results other than you becoming increasingly frustrated. There's a better way.
2. You Can't Figure Everything Out
Have you ever REALLY hit it off with a guy but after a few weeks or months, even though things seemed great, the man pulled away and starting acting distant and cold?
Most men, at one time or another, do things like this that are ridiculous and impossible to figure out. So EXPECT to NOT UNDERSTAND everything a man does. If you can become more comfortable with the idea of not knowing everything about WHY a man does what he does, then you'll feel a strange sense of calm relaxation—along with an increase in your own self-confidence.
I'm not saying that it's OK for a man to do whatever and that you should accept any negative and withdrawing behaviors without bringing it up and confronting it. You absolutely should take notice and make mention of these things when you see them. But the more relaxed and positive you can think and feel around these things, no matter what the man is doing, the sooner you'll stop fighting everything in your mind and start creating better situations for yourself.
It's frustrating and counterintuitive, but accepting what's going on and moving forward from that reality in a positive way changes the whole frame of the situation. But some women get stuck in the "I need to understand why he does this and THEN I'll figure out what to do, think and feel" mindset. This almost never leads to clear thinking and positive action. Remember, men don't make any sense. So don't depend on their actions making sense for you to develop your own opinions, judgments and next steps. Pay attention to your gut, what you want in your life and what you know is right instead of rationalizing and finding a way for it to all fit together and be OK.
3. Ask Yourself Questions, Be Patient And Your Intuition Will Talk