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How to Be More Than Just A Fling To Him

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How to Be More Than Just A Fling To Him
Make him see you as the “cool girl” he just has to get.

Did you know that most men decide if a woman is "girlfriend material" within a few seconds of meeting her?
That's right - if you don't know how to create the right first impression with a man, then you just might get thrown into the "just a friend" category FOR GOOD. That's why it's important to understand what causes a man to be attracted to you at a deeper level from the get-go.
Men think of women as relationship material - or a "cool girl" - when they see that a woman understands something that other women can't even see going on.
"Cool girls" exude positive emotional energy that men can relate to. And they're "naturally" the kind of women who every man is inexplicably drawn to, even if they don't look like a supermodel.
Here's a list of what "cool girls" DON'T DO:

  1. Cool Girls DON'T exaggerate about what's going on around them or what a man's doing, unless they're doing it as a joke or to make fun of a man in a playful way
  2. Cool Girls DON'T say everything that they're feeling and experiencing. They think before they speak
  3. Cool Girls DON'T mention bad situations, issues or problems from the past unless it's a total "must" or extremely important and they haven't been able to talk about it yet. They find the right time for them AND their man to talk. Otherwise, Cool Girls live in the present moment
  4. Cool Girls DON'T try to FORCE a man to talk about his feelings. They know that it will only backfire and he'll think she's being needy and he'll close off

Here's a few of the "cool girl" Dos:

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