Technology & Dating: The Facebook Effect

Technology & Dating: The Facebook Effect [EXPERT]
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Does social media kill your dating life? Read on!

The worst part is that you are an Aries! And we all know that Aries have no compatibility with Scorpio's in the dating world. Your heart drops. But it gets worse, your get another IM from your friend: "Did you see him tagged in 'Lake Tahoe Trip 2010' album?"

You reluctantly open the pictures and in almost every single picture he has his arm around some blazingly gorgeous girl, cocktail in hand, and looking like quite the playboy. It's over. This is not the great guy you thought he was going to be. Mr. Eco-Loving Green Champion Salsa Remix Gentleman, is nothing but a Fox News playboy that drinks too much and doesn't even belong with your sign anyway. It's Complicated: Romance In A Web 2.0 World

This is what I call the Facebook Effect. It is mostly easily had with Facebook, but can also happened with other social networks, long-winded emails, or just spilling way too many beans on the first months of dating. You know my mantra … Slow down.

Too much information is a wicked sword that cuts many ways. It does not allow for discovery in the moment and one the date. It takes away from the ease of getting to know someone and for the wonderful organic growth of a relationship.

I am not a stickler for rules, but there are a couple things I don't budge on when coaching clients toward substantial relationships: no sex till you get the commitment and no Facebook. It utterly wrecks the discovery process of dating, and, like most things on the Internet, can be filled with so many mistruths. Romantic Facebook Posts: Thumbs Up Or Down?

Maybe Antonio went to a family reunion in Tahoe and since he is a good looking chap, all of his cousins and family members are quite easy on the eyes. Maybe he loves Lou Dobbs but is very open to listening to the left.

And as for the Scorpio thing … throw it away. I literally had a gal freak out one time because she went to my Facebook page and saw that I was a Gemini. For every supposed "mismatch" that astrology states, there is another "match" to prove it wrong.

So don't let Facebook hijack your dating process. Put that digital connection on ice, to allow for your personal connection to provide all the details you need to find out. Let your date's words and actions to speak for themselves, not their status updates, pictures, or political interests.

Seize the date,
Christian

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