5 Ways to Attract the Man You Want

Love, Sex

How science can be your best wingman when attracting the man you want.

2)    Eye Contact

A little eye tennis goes a long way. When you are sitting at that Starbucks, combine your smashing smile with 3-5 second eye contact. Two seconds is: “Did she just look at me?” Three seconds is: “I think she just checked me out, but maybe the guy behind me.” Four to Five seconds is, “Oh, it’s on. She just checked me out. I got to talk to her!” The combination of the smile and eye contact subconsciously tells a man that you are approving of him as a potential mate.

NOTE: Dr Pat Allen continues to note that humans have more white in their eyes than any other species; mainly since we use our eyes more for communication. In any event, play up that optic communicator, and pick an eye liner that accentuates your lovely gaze.


3)    That ‘Ole Hair and Neck Thing You All Do

So there you are at the bar, in class, or at the grocery store. He is 10 feet from you watching the game, studying Chaucer, or picking up canned tuna. After you give the 3-5 second glance over to him coupled with your adorable smile, you then go back to your previous activity. As you hold your grocery basket in one hand, slowly slide your other hand through your hair, give it a couple tussles, and then let it slowly drizzle from the nape of your neck down to the collar bone. The sexiness & playfulness of your hair, coupled with the tenderness of your neck will kick in a few mating chemicals inside of him that will ignite his hunt mode.


4)   Raise Your Shoulder and Arch Your Back

I know this one will sound a little ridiculous, but you might want to let nature use it’s own sexual elixir to give you an assist while you are out and about.

Arching your back reflects lordosis behavior (basically sticking your butt out) which almost every female mammal exhibits during estrus. Estrus is the sign that all our male mammalian cousins are waiting for: the female has approved of their mating dance and is sexually receptive, ie, in heat. So think of all that DNA history pumping through the guy in Aisle 3 when he sees you “stretch out” before you reach of the Rice Krispies.

NOTE: Helen Fisher, a noted anthropologist and human behavior researcher at Rutgers University, speculates that women wearing high heels exhibit lordosis behavior.


5)    Pull Away From The Pack

You can hit all the fine points of our age old mating dance, but if you don’t pull away from the pack, then he might not ever go in for the approach due to the wall of your protective clan. Obviously, if you are alone you need not worry about this one, but if you and the girls or guy friends are out and you see a young buck checking you out, it might be time to take a stroll which will invite him into your own personal space.


I realize this all has to do with physical behavior and does not speak to allowing your brains, humor, charm, and accomplishments to aid in attraction. There will plenty of time for all of that. For now, allow your genes and natural history to be the best wing man in the business. We definitely don’t need to be slaves to our primate history, but it sure doesn’t hurt to be aware of it and use it gain influence with the opposite sex.


Explore YourTango