The Bachelor Recycled: 3 Q's To Prevent Mis-Calculations

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The Bachelor Recycled: 3 Q's To Prevent Mis-Calculations
More than entertainment, The Bachelor offers insights we can all use to create profitable love lives

Year after year we enjoy dissecting the cornucopia of colorful characters seeking love Bachelor style. After all, they're cast no differently than the consciously composed ensemble of a Hollywood movie. Film producers wish to cash in on their featured collective with highbrow awards, while Bachelor producers along with the network make calculated choices designed to rake in a windfall of captivated viewers and extraordinarily lucrative advertising dollars. Thus there's always a little something for each of us to rate, hate and (surprisingly) relate to. Wisdom from Whitney: Put Yourself First

Like high school, we see women who lead with sweetness, vulnerability, strength, sex, selfishness, nastiness, and competitive drive. Despite knowing that each of these willing participants (as well as ourselves) is being sucked into a surreptitiously staged performance, we're compelled to cheer, boo and hiss from our sheltered sidelines as each period of the competition plays out before our very eyes. We can't help but watch with disheartening disbelief when like a bad referee, the man at the center of the action half-wittedly gets hoodwinked by the least honorable player (Yikes Courtney!)

Still, despite the plethora of purposely-diverse personalities, there is always at least one seemingly sweet, sensible, well-intentioned woman that makes us wonder why she'd throw herself into this emotional tournament of roses. More than just entertainment, The Bachelor gives us a fabulous opportunity to explore the motivation behind perplexing choices like these with curiosity that ultimately uncovers valuable insights we can all use to create the profitable equations we crave for our love lives. 5 Shockingly Good Dating Tips From "The Bachelor"

When it comes to love, there are many factors that drive your choices, actions, and most importantly — your perceptions about the promise of potential partners. Without risk there is no reward, yet your emotions undoubtedly create trapdoors you can fall through in route. However, you don't have to fear the worst. Instead, ask yourself these three questions and revisit your answers as your relationship is unfolding so your awareness keeps your calculations aligned with the results you desire.

What's motivating you?

Are you looking to cast someone in the love story you've written? Do you feel the crunch of time pressure because you want to have children? Have you decided you're going to unabashedly take a risk after playing it too safely in the past? Being aware of what's driving your interest in the relationship market is critical to making accurate calculations about the compatibility of your love interest. 4 Steps To Finding Love [VIDEO]

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