Why Men & Women Cheat

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Why Men & Women Cheat


Of the men polled, 80% openly admitted to cheating largely for physical or sexual gratification with no emotional tie. Rounding out the top reasons men cheat included:

  • Just want to have sex or sexual variety
  • Presented with an opportunity to have sex, without getting immediately caught
  • Satisfy sexual curiosity about having sex with a particular person
  • The “thrill of the chase”
  • The desire to feel important or special (an ego boost)


However, in delving further into the mens’ reasons, I discovered that most of the men felt that they were “unable to get out of their relationship” prior to their infidelity, which translated into the simple fact that they lacked the skills/respect to maturely discuss their unhappiness with their significant other. In short, they acknowledged that they were unhappy and looking for a way out… but they couldn’t bring themselves to pull the trigger on the relationship. If they cheated and got caught (most long-term cheaters do end up getting caught), they were able to quickly turn the tables, telling their spouse how it was THEIR fault they cheated because [insert reason here: not enough sex, boredom, etc.].

Look, I get it: Monogamy isn’t for everyone... and that's all-good. But, if you’ve made promises, stick to them. If you're not willing to stay faithful, at least have the decency and respect (and self-respect) to close one chapter before beginning another. Cheating is a choice. Period.

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