The age-old question: What makes a person in a marriage or committed relationship cheat? Despite recent articles that suggest that there is a cheating gene ingrained into the DNA of some men (Really? *rolls eyes*), the real answer depends on whether you’re talking about a woman or a man. Several credible infidelity studies have found that men and women who are cheating on their spouses gave different reasons to justify their extramarital affairs.
Cheating was one of the subjects I covered with 1,200+ women and 400+ men in my research to write The Problem with Women… is Men: Volume 1; the results were fascinating. Aside from infidelity being identified as one of the four core flaws in men (as discussed in my book), the sad truth is that being caught—albeit subconsciously—was evidently the long-term goal.
Women reported that they cheat mostly for emotional reasons, which highlights the contrast on how the genders identify the “reasons” for sex… the top reasons:
- Lack of emotional intimacy
- Marital or relationship unhappiness
- Reaffirm her desirability
- To re-experience feelings of romance
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