7 Things Men Fear Most

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He may never admit he worries about anything, but trust us, he does.

2. Have I accomplished/done enough in life? Men look back often and wonder: What have I accomplished in my life? What is my legacy? Will I be remembered in some way? Is this what I want? Am I happy? Is the grass greener somewhere else? This self-evaluation leads to wondering if they are living life to their fullest.

How you can help: Talk to him about it … without judgement. What are his short- and long-term aspirations? What does he want for himself, and what does he need from you to make it happen?

3. Am I going to lose my job? His job is a very big deal to him, especially in these tough economic times. This fear causes men to (re)focus on their career/job. As they put their attention to it, other things suffer from a lack of attention — family, relationship, etc. He's probably not doing it on purpose, but it leads to women asking why he doesn't care or put effort in any more.

The rub: She doesn't want to tell him that she feels he's dropping back, because then his renewed effort isn't "genuine" (read: he didn't think of it himself, so it isn't him wanting to).

How you can help: Acknowledge the issue and the stress that accompanies it. Remind him that you are in this together. If life throws you a curveball, you'll be there — with him and for him. At the same time, gently remind him that he needs balance. Jobs and money might come-and-go ... but you are there and that is where his effort needs to be also.

4. Am I getting old? Men do worry about their age and attractiveness. Finding gray hairs, losing eyesight, getting tired constantly … these insecurities are a combination of societal pressure, self-evaluation and a sense of nagging mortality.

How you can help: Just like you, he wants to know you still find him attractive. Let him know ... and show him. Keep Reading ...

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