Is Your Stalker Ex Driving You Crazy?

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Breakup Advice: Is Your Ex Stalking You?
You broke up a long time ago (and for a good reason), so why hasn't he gotten the memo?

You meet someone. You fall in love. You become involved in a relationship. Then ... something happens. Maybe one of you outgrows the other. Maybe you have different life goals. Maybe the passion waned and it was just time to call it quits before one or both of you was disappointed in the long run. Whatever the case, it resulted in a breakup. And in a normal world (with functional people) that would be that.

However, perhaps your ex was slightly possessive (which is really just a nice way of saying he was a controlling, crazy, nutcase who finally showed his true colors) and that was at least part of the reason you broke up in the first place. The problem? He just won't let go.

He switches between two modes. One minute, he's sincerely regretful: "Baby, I'm so sorry. I know I screwed up, but you have to give me another chance. I can make it right this time." (Yeah, right. Because you didn't fall for this line of crap and break up with him 18 times before.)

And the next minute, he's clinging to you in anger desperation: "You think I'm letting you go? Not  a chance. You may have broken up with me, but I did not break up with you. We're still together. Don't even think about being with anyone else."

The main issue: He says either (and sometimes both) of these statements all the time: at 4 a.m. — sometimes sober, sometimes drunk — at your job, at your doorstep, near your car at the mall (because he followed you from your three previous errands and "just had to talk to you") or — in extreme cases — at the foot of your bed, in the morning when he doesn't live with you anymore.

Those crazy whack-a-doos with their colossal lack of self control, inability to recognize boundaries and supreme mastery of denial! What on earth is wrong with them? Are they just a few sandwiches short of a picnic? Did they originate in the shallow end of the gene pool? Whatever the case, these kind of exes just can't let go. Keep reading...

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