Top 3 Ways Women Sabotage Their Chances At Finding Love

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Odds are you're getting in your own way.


3. You have a vendetta against all men.


With the anger that can accompany some breakups — or if you've had a number of bad relationships in a row — you might try to convince yourself that all men are bad. With that mentality, you won't need to invest, trust or develop an intimate relationship with anyone again. But it's not healthy and it doesn't acknowledge that relationships are made up of two people. Even if he was the worst guy possible, you had your own contributions to what made the relationship fail (even if your only "contributions" were that you ignored red flags, stayed too long or allowed yourself to be in a disconnected relationship).

For those women who have been in multiple bad relationships: They think they've had five bad relationships in a row. But in reality, they've had one bad relationship five times. My advice: Get out of the pattern. Get into you. Change your environment and you'll change your selection process.

Other women fool themselves and embrace bitterness with statements like, "There's no such thing as love. I just want to be single." But what many are truly saying is, "I've been hurt and I'm not willing to put myself out there to be hurt again." What they need to realize is that not everyone is the same. All relationships are different. Love is great, but they have to love and trust themselves before someone else can.

Moving past a bad relationship takes a concerted effort to accept (what happened and your part in things), forgive (yourself and others) and change. In the end, it becomes a simple choice. Either you choose to live back where you were or you choose to live where you are.

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