You see the guy listening to the conversation with a smirk on his face? He's the right guy. He's always learning from what others have learned and loves to hear about your experiences. Even if it's something he might not do or accomplish, he will enjoy it vicariously without feeling threatened, slighted or insecure. Date a man who smiles, because (as you'll see from my reasons), a genuine smile says a lot about a guy:
He chases his dreams. You'll know that he does, because he will tell you what he wants from his experience on this planet and what he wishes for others. He's the one who engages people he's just met and asks them with inquisitive interest what they are doing in their lives, and then dives into the conversation without one-upping them with something he's doing.
He loves life. He's the guy who is trying new things, watching others try new things and enjoys both. If you stop to talk to him, he will tell you about a new book he's read, a new place he has visited or a new class he's taking. He has a lust for life and for living. He recognizes that he has limited time and wants to make the most of it.
He's always looking to improve himself. Date a man who spends his time on improving himself emotionally as well as physically. He might have issues with time, because he has an unquenchable thirst for living and for life. Date a man who has a list of things he wants to learn ... about himself, about the world around him and about others.
It's easy to date a man who smiles. Give him your time. Play cards with him and chat. Drink coffee. Watch a movie. Take a hike. Discuss a current event or a book. Walk through a crowded market with him; he will start conversations with others just to learn about them and you will learn about each other simultaneously. But there is no pressure to join him in these conversations. He is just driven to learn, experience and enjoy the people around him.
If you make a mistake, he'll roll with it — and smile. He knows that people aren't perfect because he isn't. He acknowledges his faults, so he won't hold yours against you. If you fail him, he may be disappointed, but all will be well — and he'll smile. He knows that through failure comes experience and learning, and that you can always try again. He is a master of empathy. Through it all, he knows how to walk a mile in your shoes without wasting time judging you. Keep reading...
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