The Pretty Ones

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The Pretty Ones

If they were confident and self-assured—in their demeanor as well as their looks—both men and women acted threatened, and would discard them as "one of those bitches"... and this would happen before they opened their mouths to speak, so there was no way for people to know.

• Untouchable. These women stated that they had a very hard time making and keeping female friends, as other women were fast to assume that there would be a competition for men. And men were either intimidated, assumed they would be high-maintenance, or were sure that they already had a boyfriend or husband. As such, men wouldn't even approach them.

• Not intelligent. The most comment lament was that people automatically assumed they weren't intelligent—that their beauty equated to a lack of smarts.

• Easy Marks. And when it comes to attractive women, many times it is the Alpha Male—with primal instincts and DNA driving his desire. He isn't intimidated by beauty, but he has ulterior motives. However, most often a “romance” with an Alpha Male is short-lived, and he moves on after he has his fill. These women reported that they felt used by men on a consistent basis.

In short, physical attractiveness can come with a price. Most men seem to have no issues with this, so my advice falls toward the ladies:

• Maintain your self-esteem. As challenging as it can be, keep perspective. Two main things drive people who hate on you: fear and insecurity. Don’t sacrifice who you are and where you are going to placate the man in your life.

• Make men work for your affections. Men who aren't intimidated will view your beauty as a challenge... and attempt to dominate you. Don’t give in. Make him work to get with you, and then keep the bar high.
Watch your friendships. Be careful who you let in to your world, and how fast. Jealousy is a big motivator.

• Remember that you are not alone in these challenges. Women are faced with these challenges everyday—from Alyssa Milano to Drew Barrymore (just to name two quickly). Keep your wits about you, and never settle for second-best.

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