Dating In LA Is Tough (But You Can Still Find Love)

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Looking for the perfect person in LA? It's time to change your attitude and give people a chance.

I've worked as a Los Angeles matchmaker for over 21 years. I know being single in Los Angeles is no easy feat. It can feel as though you’re drowning in a sea of thousands of other singles hoping to meet their special someone. Unfortunately, LA singles are spoiled by too many choices.

At every corner there is a new website, Los Angeles matchmaker service or place to meet singles. There are rapid dating events, dinner dates for groups and 200 online sites. It doesn’t matter where we go, there is someone telling you that they have the answer to helping you find your partner. It can be completely overwhelming!

Everyone wants a quick fix, and they dive into the newest, best, dating idea without thinking it through. With all this online information, we have transformed into a generation that makes fast decisions but has a difficult time picking the right person to date. We make the same mistakes again and again.

People dating online pick the most attractive photos and think nothing about the substance or basic makeup of the person they want to meet. They pass up meeting people that could be perfect for them if they simply gave them a chance.

I know it’s difficult to believe, but the truth is that there are too many people to pick from in Los Angeles. To find happiness and love in LA, you must change your attitude about dating and slow down! Meet someone and give them a chance. That means go one date a time and not have two other dates lined up for the following day.

People look for red flags and blow people off because they have too many options via the internet. You feel you can always meet someone better looking, with more money, or more fun.  I’ve been in the singles business for 21 years and have watched people searching for that perfect person for 15 years.

In the end, they realize that no one is perfect including them. They cry about passing up a great person 15 years ago because they felt they could find someone better.

If you're tired of being single in Los Angeles stop looking backward and get out there and make new friends. Make a friend with each date you go on. I’ve had people marry my client’s best friend.

As we all know, there is no such thing as the perfect person, so decide what the most important deal breakers are for you and keep it to a small list of the most important issues. Don’t discount someone over a few years of age or a couple inches of height. Keep an open mind and you’ll have a much better chance for success. 

If you want to meet a matchmaker and talk about how you need help being single in Los Angeles contact Sherri Murphy, Elite Connections VIP Los Angeles matchmaker at 800-923-4200.


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