4 Undeniably Solid Reasons To Never Date A Coworker


Dating Tips: No Office Love & Romance!
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If you are currently not in a relationship, you may be dreaming of finally having someone to have dinners with, watching movies with... and all the other things that couple do. But what if, like so many others, you just don't have the time to meet anyone because you're so busy with work? You may find yourself wondering if it might be a good idea to date someone from the cubicle next to yours. It'd be so easy! You already see each other every day, and you have to admit — he does look pretty cute in a tie.

Of course you may also love the thought of having meetings and company outings with a special someone, but step back for a minute: do you really think it's a good idea to date a coworker? The answer (in case you needed a hint) is a big no. Need further proof? Check out these non-negotiable reasons why an office romance just isn't a good idea:

1. It might be against company policy.
In many offices, employees are forbidden from dating their fellow employees. This is a fact you can't change — no matter how much you may want to take your flirtation with a coworker to the next level. You may choose to hide your relationship at first, but hey, what's the point of committing to someone you can't even openly spend time with? If you don't want to have this big dilemma, then it's simple: don't entertain this thought in the first place.

2. What if one of you gets a promotion?
If you start dating a coworker from your department and you get promoted to a managerial position, do you think it will be easy for you to be professional with your subordinate, who also now happens to be your girlfriend or boyfriend? Just try to imagine what could happen when it's time for doing performance assessments or reprimanding a worker. This is definitely an undesirable situation to be in, as you can imagine.

3. It's not always just about the two of you.
There's no denying that your romantic relationship with your coworker can have negative effects on your relationship with other workers. During a coffee break, for example, you'd naturally sit beside your partner and may, however subconsciously, expect your coworkers to give the two of you some privacy. As a result, you are going to isolate yourself from the others, and this definitely wouldn't be beneficial for you — especially come evaluation time for job promotion.

4. Moving on after a breakup.
If the relationship doesn't end so well, it may be very hard for both of you to deal with each other professionally. What's worse is there could even be claims of harassment or unwanted advances from one of you. Not only will this make your relationship worse, but this could also ruin your reputation in the workplace.

Okay, but what if you just can't fight the feeling? If you think that you're having strong feelings for someone in your company, what are you supposed to do? You don't necessarily have to consider a job change because of this, but you could consider asking to be transferred to a different department in the company. This way, you can still keep yourself focused on your job and professional development.

An office romance is tempting, but think twice before you sneak off to the janitorial supply closet — your future happiness in both love and work could depend on it.

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