Maintaining a relationship is one of the things that many people are not very good at. It's not because relationships are really not meant to last forever, but people are often unaware of what they should — and shouldn't — do to have a lasting relationship. What's worse is that we hardly notice our relationship is failing until it's too late.
Since it's hard to tell when things aren't going well from afar, you may as well look at your own actions to know if you're doing a good job of building a strong relationship or not.
So you can be more aware of where you're heading, see the various ways you're actually ruining your relationship below.
1. You're Taking Your Partner For Granted
One of the best things you can do to rush the end of your relationship is to think that your partner will always be with you to make your life better and easier. You may think it's not too much or too hard to cook dinner, do some grocery shopping, or clean the house but all these can become burdensome to your partner.
It's important that you acknowledge and appreciated whatever it is that your partner is doing to make your life together as comfortable as possible. A simple "Thank you" can mean so much to the person who willingly does things for you. You wouldn't ignore a visitor in your home, so you don't have any reason at all to treat your special someone worse.
2. You Don't Have Anything To Say ... All The Time.
Looking back, you would see how much you enjoyed talking to each other when you were in the early stages of your relationship. In fact, you may have spent so many hours at night talking on the phone or whenever you had the chance to be alone together. Talking or communicating is an essential aspect of building a strong relationship.
When you notice that you hardly talk to each other already, you may as well expect your relationship to die eventually. Take note also that talking here doesn't just mean exchanging words. What couples need is to have some real and sincere conversations where they could learn more about each other. It's true that the fading of honest conversations between couples is a natural process that relationships go through overtime. But still, you need to make a conscious effort to spend time with your partner to talk about the important things in your lives.
3. You Avoid Expressing How You Feel
As you spend more years together as a couple, there is a tendency for both of you to stop saying sweet words to each other. As a matter of fact, many people find themselves not even expressing their anger towards their partners anymore. While these are natural human tendencies, it doesn't mean you should let yourself be emotionless towards your partner all the time.
While you may think that certain feelings are too petty to share, you have to understand that sharing them with your loved one is a necessity. It's not enough that you both just believe you're in love. You must express how you feel and tell your partner your feelings towards him or her.
4. You Stopped Having Fun
We get into a relationship for many different reasons. In many cases, we choose to be with somebody because he or she has the same outlook in life as us, or they have the traits that we are looking for in a lifetime partner. But more importantly, we choose our partners because we enjoy being with them. Indeed, it's important for couples to have fun and enjoy each other's company if they want to last forever.
A relationship that lacks fun is definitely not going the right direction. No matter how serious you are with planning your career pathways, for instance, make sure that you still have time to do things that you and your partner always enjoy. Keeping fun in your relationship will only make it healthier and stronger. And who doesn't want that?
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