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Cathryn Bond Doyle (BS)
Hi! I’m Cathryn and here’s a bit about my background.
Seems I’ve been studying human behavior my entire life. I went to college to learn about management and organizational behavior. I worked for IBM to learn ethical selling and marketing skills. In 1980, I went to work for a bank to start new ATM programs. Back then ATMs were brand new, threatening to tellers and scary to most consumers. In three years, we set national records for consumer usage, twice the national average. Why? Because instead of motivating people with gifts, I trained the branch staff how (and why) to listen to fears and objections and then talk with each consumer about their specific needs.
In 1984, I went out on my own as a consultant, working with financial executives and training their branch staffs to sell new services like ATMs and debit cards to consumers using psychology and high integrity interpersonal skills to help everyone feel comfortable making new choices. The programs were well received all over the English speaking world. I flew over a million miles, on American Airlines alone, happily doing this work.
In the early 90‘s I started doing more motivational speaking and speech coaching and then my world changed dramatically in 1996 when I became a stepmom to a 5 year old boy who lived with me half of the time. With the desire to get to know my stepson and needing a break from 12 years of traveling, I set aside my consulting career and instead worked locally mentoring sales people and caring for my new stepson whenever he was with us. As Dickens wrote, “It was the best of times, it was also the worst of times.” (Italics mine.)
In 2000, I became the relationship columnist for phenomenalwomen.com and wrote a monthly column for 2 years. I also started my own support group called, “Stepmoms on a Mission” and we met weekly for 2 years. SMOMS.org opened in 2002 to create a on-line community to support and teach women healthy ways to deal with the unfathomable stress so many women experience when their husband’s ex-wife or children are unwilling to have a kind or civil relationship with them.
Thanks to the wisdom and skills I’ve acquired from several professional teachers (in over 1,000 paid hours of learning since 2000) and the work I’ve done with thousands of stepmoms from around the world, I’ve developed insights, practical and proven tactics and emotional skills to pass along to any woman interested in becoming more aware and empowered as an individual, a wife and as a stepmom.
I’m not a therapist, although you will learn a lot about psychology, relationships, boundaries, beliefs and communication skills as we work together on your unique situations and issues.
However, as a consultant and mentor, I can teach you to how to become more conscious of your true needs and feelings. Together we can untangle and understand dynamics, beliefs and patterns that negatively impact you and your relationships on a daily basis. You’ll see things more clearly so you can make new healthy choices that will bring you more freedom in your relationships and a greater sense of well-being...right from the very first session. Whether we work together one time or every week, my approach is to help you learn at the pace you set for yourself. No contracts, just your commitment to do your best each session.
My approach to personal growth? From personal experiences as both student and teacher, I believe that working with a trustworthy, honest, non-judgmental and patient teacher who believes in your potential for change, wisdom and happiness is the smoothest pathway for sustained growth and change. If there’s something in your life that you’d like to improve, change or better understand, please read a couple of my articles here and at SMOMS.org. If you do this, you’ll get a sense of my approach and you’ll know if working with me is a good fit for you. I welcome your calls, messages and emails.
The Reason I Became A Helping Professional
For as long as I can remember, I’ve been fueled by the joy that comes from self-revelation, but I figured I’d be a free lance consultant, writer and speaker for the rest of my life. I loved my work. However, when I became a stepmom in 1996, my attention and energy was unexpectedly redirected from the corporate world to the very personal, complex and tender realm of family relationships.
Even with all my training and corporate/retail experience in the 18 years prior to becoming a stepmom, I found myself facing unprecedented relationship challenges and therefore extraordinary opportunities for personal transformation. For the past few years, I’ve been telling women that being in the role of a stepmom or in any romantic relationship is likely to activate every unhealed emotional wound, fear and limiting belief within you. The good news? If you’re willing to do the work, these situations give us the chance to get our unofficial PhD in personal growth and healing. I feel like that’s what I’ve done over the past 16 years.
Once forming Stepmoms on a Mission in 2000, I devoted all my available time to self-evaluation and to supporting other stepmoms in our group. I became passionate about sharing what I was learning with others. I knew early into my role as stepmom, that I wasn’t ever going back to the corporate world; not when there’s so much work to do educating and empowering women with the insights, skills and strengths they need to help themselves, the men they love and all the children in their lives.
Cathryn Bond Doyle
Cathryn Bond Doyle
Over $120 per session