Insights & training for greater emotional well-being and wisdom.
About Cathryn Bond Doyle
Hi! I’m Cathryn and here’s a bit about my background.
Seems I’ve been studying human behavior my entire life. I went to college to learn about management and organizational behavior. I worked for IBM to learn ethical selling and marketing skills. In 1980, I went to work for a bank to start new ATM programs. Back then ATMs were brand new, threatening to tellers and scary to most consumers. In three years, we set national records for consumer usage, twice the national average. Why? Because instead of motivating people with gifts, I trained the branch staff how (and why) to listen to fears and objections and then talk with each consumer about their specific needs.
In 1984, I went out on my own as a consultant, working with financial executives and training their branch staffs to sell new services like ATMs and debit cards to consumers using psychology and high integrity interpersonal skills to help everyone feel comfortable making new choices. The programs were well received all over the English speaking world. I flew over a million miles, on American Airlines alone, happily doing this work.
In the early 90‘s I started doing more motivational speaking and speech coaching and then my world changed dramatically in 1996 when I became a stepmom to a 5 year old boy who lived with me half of the time. With the desire to get to know my stepson and needing a break from 12 years of traveling, I set aside my consulting career and instead worked locally mentoring sales people and caring for my new stepson whenever he was with us. As Dickens wrote, “It was the best of times, it was also the worst of times.” (Italics mine.)
In 2000, I became the relationship columnist for phenomenalwomen.com and wrote a monthly column for 2 years. I also started my own support group called, “Stepmoms on a Mission” and we met weekly for 2 years. SMOMS.org opened in 2002 to create a on-line community to support and teach women healthy ways to deal with the unfathomable stress so many women experience when their husband’s ex-wife or children are unwilling to have a kind or civil relationship with them.
Thanks to the wisdom and skills I’ve acquired from several professional teachers (in over 1,000 paid hours of learning since 2000) and the work I’ve done with thousands of stepmoms from around the world, I’ve developed insights, practical and proven tactics and emotional skills to pass along to any woman interested in becoming more aware and empowered as an individual, a wife and as a stepmom.
I’m not a therapist, although you will learn a lot about psychology, relationships, boundaries, beliefs and communication skills as we work together on your unique situations and issues.
However, as a consultant and mentor, I can teach you to how to become more conscious of your true needs and feelings. Together we can untangle and understand dynamics, beliefs and patterns that negatively impact you and your relationships on a daily basis. You’ll see things more clearly so you can make new healthy choices that will bring you more freedom in your relationships and a greater sense of well-being...right from the very first session. Whether we work together one time or every week, my approach is to help you learn at the pace you set for yourself. No contracts, just your commitment to do your best each session.
My approach to personal growth? From personal experiences as both student and teacher, I believe that working with a trustworthy, honest, non-judgmental and patient teacher who believes in your potential for change, wisdom and happiness is the smoothest pathway for sustained growth and change. If there’s something in your life that you’d like to improve, change or better understand, please read a couple of my articles here and at SMOMS.org. If you do this, you’ll get a sense of my approach and you’ll know if working with me is a good fit for you. I welcome your calls, messages and emails.