For the last couple of months I’ve been hard at work planning, preparing and finalizing the upcoming teleseries: The Feminine Quest: Compelling Conversations for Women in Midlife about Healing, Transforming and Birthing Authentic, Passionate and Purposeful Lives. Yea, I know that name’s a mouthful but I really wanted to get all of the elements in there I’m so excited to bring this event to you all starting on 4/4!
I feel so passionately about the need for women to connect, tell their stories, see the similarities and feel nurtured and supported in their lives. I think this is true at all stages of life, but I think it’s especially true in midlife. In the past, when women gathered around the campfire or when multiple generations lived together, it was easier for the older women to pass their wisdom and support to the younger women. In our busy, often disconnected lives, we no longer have those wise, nurturing women in our lives. More often, we feel alone, confused, lost and maybe a little bit crazy at times. I know I have.
Midlife for me, as for many women, brought about a period of great change and loss of many of the things that had defined me up until that point. The end of a 30 year marriage, no longer living with my children, moving out of my home and into a basement studio apartment, leaving my consulting jobs, opening a healing center and becoming completely responsible for myself financially, all within a 2 year period, was quite a jolt to all of my systems.
Although I had consciously chosen all of those things, the resulting feelings of loss, sadness, loneliness, fear and overwhelm were still there. Add guilt for ending my marriage and choosing to leave my teenage children with their dad, and the emotional roller coaster was in full throttle. In case that wasn’t enough, let’s throw menopause and deep spiritual and transformational work into the mix and I had the fixings of The Perfect Storm!
Because my work as a coach, psychotherapist and public speaker, is all about supporting others to heal and discover their own passions and purpose, I needed to be “on” and all put together much of the time. This is not an easy task when your heart is broken, your bank account is dwindling and your hormones are going crazy!
I share my story not because I want your sympathy or think I’m unique or special. In fact, just the opposite is true. I know that many other women had had to deal with much more difficult life experiences, many not by choice. I know that there are many women who carry on each day, broken-hearted, fearful and in physical pain, putting a smile on their faces and doing what they need to do for themselves, their families and their children.
I want so much for every woman to know she is not alone or going crazy. We are all doing the best we can at any moment in time, given our past and present circumstances.