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Want A New Boyfriend By Christmas? Ask Yourself These 5 Questions

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Let's be real; the holidays have a way of making us single ladies feel a little like Bridget Jones.

Some women are ready for love, while others are not. Some look forward to traveling during the holidays, some crave a man's company so urgently that the holidays make them tense and afraid. Today, I am an honest to goodness happy single lady. I am divorced 4 months now and feel more comfortable writing about myself and my experiences being a happy divorcee and how I am navigating the world of dating online and off. I do celebrate you because you are still here reading my words and cheering me on. Now that I am single with you, I really want to write a heart to heart.

My roommates and I are all single and have very different agendas when it comes to dating and what we want from the next guy who comes along. I know that I am not ready for a committed relationship. I am so happy being free with no one to micromanage me or dictate my choices that I can't imagine meeting a man who I would give that precious freedom up for. Ladies, you don't want to be with the wrong man, that is for sure!

Maybe like you, my roommates are both ready for love and craving being with someone special this Christmas. Tired of the rat race of singleness, they want marriage and commitment. We make an interesting household! 

It is fun to share singleness and dating stories online and off. My roomie has been on over 26 dates first dates in the last year. (She deserves a medal!) She uses Plenty of Fish and OKCupid. I have also been on the online sites, and we both have stories to tell. The fact is you have to have a sense of humor and a lot of stamina to go through the mill of online dating. I'll be sharing our experiences here so stay tuned.

How about you? Here are 5 questions to ask yourself:

  1. Do you wonder if you are ready for love? 
  2. Are you worried that your fears about being cheated on are ruining your chances for love? 
  3. Do you keep meeting the wrong kinds of men?
  4. Do you hate dating? 
  5. Do you wish more than anything that you could spend Christmas with someone special this year?

If you answered "Yes" to any of these questions, let's get you some answers. If you think that there could be something inside that is blocking you from finding the right person, make today the day you find out what is going on. I have opened my schedule and am doing free Love Magnet Readings to make it possible for you to get a true read for where you are right now when it comes to radiating the "I am available and ready for love" vibe that your next partner is searching for. Let me repeat that. There is someone out there looking for who you are — the you that is underneath all the heartbreak and drama. If you get very focused, you can build a confident vibe that says, "Bring it on; I am ready for love."

Here's a test. Stand in front of the mirror. Look yourself in the eye and say, "I am 100 percent emotionally available for a partner right now. A man could move into my bedroom tomorrow." If you can say that and mean it, good for you. But, if the words stick in your throat, click this link and schedule yourself into my calendar for a Free Love Magnet Reading. Let's get you a date for New Years Eve. Click Here to Talk To Catherine.

Catherine Behan is a Dating, Sex and Intimacy Coach practicing in San Diego, CA. For a free 20 minute chat to talk about manifesting your Last First Date, click here.

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